I'm a realist. The glass is BOTH half-full and half-empty. It is in equilibrium.

I like that Desigol.

Living and then dealing with reality is a good place to be.

I also consider myself a realist. Sometimes that means acknowledging the down side, and optimists don't always realize that. You know yourself, and that this is how today is going to go. To me, that's realism.

Now, about wanting to be dead so that you don't have to suffer. That's not realistic. I want to sleep so long my suffering will have passed by the time I wake up, but that's not realistic either. We need to get help coping with the uncomfortable feelings so that we can tolerate them while they're here.

I wish you the best today ((hugs)) girl. Remember that you are not alone!!!

I have an idea of how you feel. And you are being a realist. Unfortunately, other folks, "normal" folks, just don't understand. They think we should try to look on the bright side I am in one of the most awful depressions I've been in--it's still sliding, not much further it can go. I also know I rapid cycle, so my best response to those folks is, "yeah, perhaps tomorrow I'll start to swing up".
Usually my depressions last 1 to 2 weeks, but you never know. And to tell them otherwise just pushes them away because they don't understand the depth and breadth of our condition, nor the pain and despair. It makes them uncomfortable with us. I don't need to push away any more people that I care about.

I try to always feel grateful for my blessings and it helps me to stay hopeful and know that there's always a lot of good to be found so I think I'm more realistic as well...
When I feel my worst is often when I concentrate on all that I have to feel grateful for and it helps me to feel more optimistic

I think I am a realist.
Although many of my family members see me as a pessimist .... I have a realist knowledge of what I can, and can not do.

I do stretch myself , and work on expanding my comfort zone, but I think my family believes I should do more

Now, my Father (who truly is an Amazing man, no matter whether we get along or not!) always says, "I'm going to have a great day, because I've Decided to!" - and he is ABLE to do that, and he is admired by one and all because of this attitude.


On the flip side, there's the woman who, when told to "Have a nice day", responded, "Thank you, but I have OTHer plans!" lol


Either way, it's still the Law of Attraction at work - if you decide you will Not have a good day, or even if you just figure you probably Won't have a good day, things are likely to Hunt You Down and Help you have a Not So Nice day.

:/

I think unless this person is a VERY good friend, it's probably best not to say that to him. People just don't understand our moods and our knowledge of them. They don't want to hear how bad we feel.

I am a realist, I know how my life has gone and know what to expect.

Well, if he phrased it just the way you say -- he HOPES you have a great day as well -- then maybe a simple 'thanks' would have been a more suitable reply than 'I won't.'

He just kind of 'wished you well'.
Maybe it stung him a little -- like you were kind of rejecting his kind thought and it prompted him to react the way he did.

That's one aspect of it.
It's like when we greet someone by saying, 'Hey! How ya doin'?'
Generally, we only want a cursory and (hopefully) positive answer.
We don't really want to get into an in-depth conversation of all the terrible things that are happening in someone's life!!!

But now the OTHER side of it -- you KNOWING that it's not going to be a good day, no!!!
I don't think that necessarily makes you a pessimist.
You know yourself and your moods!!!

And another thing that I think is probably true is that when it ISN'T going to be a good day -- when you want to curl up in a ball and cry and want to be dead rather than to feel the way you do, well, it doesn't 'help' or feel good to have someone tell you that you're being pessimistic.

I sometimes feel as you describe and I almost ALWAYS wish I was dead!!!!!!
I'm very sorry that your mood is in that place right now and I hope you feel much happier really, really soon!!

(((((Hugs))))

i'm a happy nihilist. not only is the glass broken, but i stepped on it with my bare feet!

but part of being in the now is not making plans for afternoon john first thing in the morning, because i don't know that guy yet, and i believe in self-fulfilling prophecy.

you seem to have a handle on things, perspective wise. You just verbalized something I had been thinking of today. like people think i can just choose to be positive, and sometimes i can. But other days, i just hang in there and cry a lot, and yes , want to be in heaven already.

But sometimes the unexpected happens. Life can surprise you like that.

When he said I was being pessimistic he was actually giving me a pep talk. He went of on 'the world is your oyster' speech. Rather sweet of him. It kinda did make me take a good look at things and realized though I really wanted to curl up in a ball and die that's not what i WANT to do- if that makes sense. I went grocery shopping and lo and behold that kinda helped. My day wasn't good or great but it wasn't total shit either.