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ladybugluvs
ladybugluvs

Its aggervating that no matter what you do in life people will talk and talk and talk about you. For me I have been at this university for 10 years working. Let me tell you its accomplishment to have worked here so long. For 90 % of my expereince here I was unmedicated. Then went on Meds for 4 years and now I have been off meds for awhile and doing great. I have grown a lot here. But I have become more and more withdrawn. I don't like hanging out outside of work because I tried that. Having martinis with mangaers and all they do is judge me. I don't have facebook so someone came up to me and was like you have no friends. They here I am in a relationship there shocked. I guess its that I have the cross me once policy. If you act like an ass then I see that as a sign to not associate myself with you. Besides its just work. I do my job and help my students and go home. I am 31 and feel like I am 60 from the life lessons I learned from here. I just like to keep my personal life PERSONAL. Since I have become withdrawn now they all want to know why I am so quiet. Why am I not socializing. Sometimes I feel like saying well I have numerous reasons. Thank God I can hide in my office and work with students all day. I am just venting. Seriously, if your burned once from anyone run. I been burned with these people. Don't get me wrong I have been blessed to here. But finally I am comfortable and me being quiet from the politics is the smartest thing. I am just venting. LOL thanks if anyone read. Seriously Bipolar I and making here 10 years with the HS bull shit. Is truly EPIC 

irishwriter
irishwriter
You are right, you need to live your life in a way that suits you and screw what anyone else thinks so long as you're doing your job and you are so well done on navigating the workplace,
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
I agree that you want to live the way that you choose to ... At the same time why do you think everyone is judging and talking about you??
If someone notices that you're being particularly quiet perhaps they're concerned? or care?... is that possible?... Big hug....xo
Sunshinegirl0228
Sunshinegirl0228
You're right. People judge. But I stand by the saying that what other people think of me is none of my business. I'm also anti social because of judgy people. At times I'm lonely. But then I here about people's friend drama and I feel blessed
ladybugluvs
ladybugluvs
Its just I have had so many bad experiences to name another. Last year the university had bed bugs at 3 locations. Yes 3 universities had bed bugs. I had been on LOA because my BP was out of control. I was back from LOA for like 3 days when 2 managers pulled me in the office and said that I had to go home and that they had to send bed bug people to my home because they feel I am the cause! They said that they checked my cube and that mine tested positive for bed bugs. So out of all the cubes surrounded by me I TEST POSITIVE.. Its a load of crap. So they sent me home for a week and paid me. The bed bug people invaded my home found nothing and then I went back to work. Seriously I have so may stories about this place and how I have been treated. Hell yeah I keep to myself. I tried with all my might to fight this discrimination. Seriously, to accuse me of that for 3 locations when I work at one. Plus I mentioned in my other post how when I tried to hang out with 2 co workers they left me at a club in chicago. I am done with BULLIES
zuzuspetals
zuzuspetals
Hi Ladybugluvs,
I'm familiar with the sort of aggravation you're experiencing at work. About your meds... do you think (or does your Doc think) becoming withdrawn has anything to do with going off meds? Did your Doc take you off? When things got weird for me at work, I did the same thing. But I think I sort of became known as antisocial, or as a recluse. Knowing what I know now, I think I would have stayed engaged as much as possible, know that I might have been able to have a positive impact on some of the people I would have seen regularly had I now retreated. We differed so much on politics, religion, methods, ethics etc. it was easy to leave them in the dust socially, but I suppose I may have been the only voice of reason for some of them. I at least could have open discussions and kept things interesting. Have you brought up your frustrations with those who have hurt you? Or have you seen a supervisor about this?
ladybugluvs
ladybugluvs
zuzu, I know meds has nothing to do with it. The discrimination I have experienced here is appalling and makes me just focus on my job and go home. I think its better for me to be anti social, it gives them less to talk about. Plus, a supervisor can't help me nor HR.
ritkat
ritkat
Wow. That's a tough spot. It sounds like you are doing what you can to keep your work and social lives separate. Unfortunately, there will always be judgmental jerks out there. The good news is that most people are too preoccupied with themselves to really judge others. I have the problem of judgment and discrimination within my family so I know how much it sucks - though I don't have to see them everyday. **hugs**
OlderCPer
OlderCPer
I worked 10 years at a Non-Profit as a Financial Administrator/Investment Administrator/Human Resources Administrator. It was a busy job, not hectic most of the time, but you never just sat with nothing to do. As with most Non-Profits they tend to combine as many positions as possible. When my Secretary left after her 2nd baby and my other close friend after her first baby, both much younger than I, I lost the 2 closest day to day friends I had. Like you I wasn't big on hanging out with the people I worked with, they weren't mean or anything, we just didn't have a ton in common. So I started staying to myself in my office, dealing with people that I had to, otherwise not.

Unfortunately in any kind of "Service" position where you have to work with people, they want you to be more outgoing. So after many attempts to try to force me to be more outgoing with staff and such, and me basically saying, leave me the hell alone, I'm here to work, I do that then I go home.

It got to a point where we all agreed it was better to not work there. Got a really good severance package, but lost a really good job that I put 10 yrs. of my life into, because in the end, I was not willing to budge....

You're at a University, I imagine they expect a certain amount of outgoing-ness from you, I'd just advise to not be too adversary in your quest to be alone. It can always come down to people thinking your not right for the job anymore and that really sucks when you've put so much of yourself into a position.

Take care,
spacekat
spacekat
People are more concerned with themselves than they are you. That's what I tell myself. i wish you only the best - and May bullies clear from your path! (((HUGS)))
ladybugluvs
ladybugluvs
I hear you old p, but I work with students and that is what is important. The sales aspect, the students going to school and me hitting my numbers. That is what keeps me here. No one is going to tell me I don't fit because the numbers don't lie. My students stay in my class, my students graduate. Point blank. I am venting because people get on my nerves. Not about losing a job. I focus on my students not the politics of hanging out and with all my co workers and drinking with them. I keep it professional and keep work at work. I like my life private period. I am sorry you were let go.
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