You know, if you are seeing a therapist, I think that I would copy this off, or write it down word for word and take it to him/her. Yes you need to love yourself first. Because if you don't love yourself, you can't truly love another person that you want to have in your life, the way that you should.

I am spending New Year's Eve and New Year's Day at home as well. Our choice.

Hugs.

Just hang out with my aunt, order some take out, and watch a few movies.

I am looking forward to low key!

I totally agree with SillyAnn...you must love yourself first to love another. I am sorry you are spending the New years day alone. I will be at work for New Years Eve and New Years....so, no fun for me either.

I have no plans for New Years. No party, no late night, just going to bed with a book at my usual time. I think we need to take care of ourselves, including love (which is different than self-infatuation). I don't see anything in your post that requires therapy. If you think something in your life needs to be changed then that's up to you.

I'm not in my 20's but don't have plans either.. I'll be curling up with my pup watching a movie and visiting my DS pals...xo

I haven't decided yet - I'm lonely enough, that I will TRY and go out and be around people....

LOL, not going to meet friend or Mr. Right on my couch - hasn't worked the last few years!

Time to do something different over here - wish me luck!

I'm sorry your New Year's Eve is probably not going to be what you'd like it to be.


And I'm sorry that you feel the way you do when your with people.

I struggled with that when I was first diagnosed.
Now, I don't even care if people see me being stupid (that's mostly what shows on me, when I go out), but then, I'm a lot older than you.

I know I would be having a LOT more trouble with the way Bipolar Disorder affects me if I was your age.
It can keep you from doing so many things that you long to do when you're a young adult.

I CAN tell you that being 21, even for norms, usually consists a bit of some of the feelings you mention.

And you know how so many people have kind of a rough time with Christmas, because for them it's not the happy-everbody-loving-each-other experience that is celebrated?

So it is for New Year's.
There are a LOT of people -- plenty of them 21 years old -- who are feeling sad because they have nowhere to go and no 'special someone' to share that midnight kiss with.

That won't make you happy, but at least you know that you are by no means alone.

It's common to want to be happy and in love, too!!
And you're very wise to not just jump into any old relationship, just to have someone in your life.

A lot of women (and men), much older than you, haven't learned that lesson yet!!!

Yeah, keep working on loving yourself!!! Best thing you can do!!
Not saying it's easy to do.
But it's worth working for!!!

((((((((((Hugs))))))))))

we are having a low key new years. Just hanging out at home with my daughter watching Netflix.

Try reading the book, "The Mystery of Love" by Don Miquel Ruiz. I think it would really help you.

It seems like none of us are doing the Expected New Year's plans!
Thanks all of you for making me feel like I'm NOT a total loser. Hopefully, when I go back to school I will make a few friends!

It gets lonely with just my GBF, and he works all the time and just got a boyfriend- whom, in my opinion, doesn't deserve him :p

Thank you again!

I think that holidays like this are totally over-rated. I think people feel too much pressure to do what everyone else is supposedly doing....and if you're not doing it, then you're supposed to feel inferior, or something. Believe me....everything looks so shiny in the pictures.....

Do they ever show the traffic jams after everyone leaves Times Square? No way, cuz that just makes the fantasy look too much like real life.

I go to my sister's cuz it's my nephew's birthday, and we have some appetizers, eat birthday cake, play games and watch "The Twilight Zone marathon" on SyFy. Such a simple time, but we have fun.

I hope you end up having a great 2013.....think positive, and try not to worry about what everyone is saying "FUN" should be.

I'd like to make a nice dinner with the two men in my life...my son and Will....hang out and play some games maybe too. I don't have any big plans...but I am fine with that. Smile

Ah, yes!! The black-eyed peas and such!!
Some of the people around here make sure to do that!!!
Or eat SOMETHING green, because then it will bring you money in the coming year.
Enough so that you can live on black-eyed peas!!!!

AND you have to thoroughly clean your whole house!!
Everything!!!
I forget what magical thing is supposed to come from that, because I've sure never experienced it first time.

just think no hang over,,no jail....no car accident..parting new yrs. eve is just a lot of hype.....not what its cut out to be.....yes love u're self first....u'll find love hang in there.......patience is a virtue..........