Hi all,
I just started at DailyStrength today because I am extremely stressed out. I am here to vent a little and gain an understanding. I love my wife who has bipolar but isn't on treatment so much. She has the art of confusing me down perfectly. For her, it isn't even an art. It's too easy for her to push my buttons. I almost feel like she is narcissistic. She never answers my questions directly. I have to beg and carefully walk on egg shells to get even close to a response. When I do, she says I am being mean. She wanted me to choose between my family and her. I told her I couldn't and it was unfair for her to ask. I then asked her why she loved me. Of course she didn't answer right away. She has been telling me that I can't ask her that question. Help me understand why not?

So she finally answered it anyways and she says she loves me for all the reasons that she has been complaining about. Here's an example. She tells me some days that I don't spoil her enough. One of the reason she said she loved me is that I spoil her some days. On the days that she complains about me not spoiling her I try to tell her I do spoil her and she fights viciously that I don't. But now it's a reason that she loves me.

I don't know what to think. I tell her I'm confused and she tells me I'm being mean. It doesn't help that I feel like I'm bipolar or more likely paranoid schizophrenic. Thanks for hearing me vent.