hi, that sounds really hard on you.

have you asked him why he gets angry? It's a common male thing to get angry when a woman cries - I suspect many feel it's their fault or become frustrated because they can't fix it Maybe that's something you could talk to him about?

Ouchy. Do you believe he is even capable of understanding? Asperger's can get in the way of such comprehension. Any chance of being able to put a locked door between the two of you when you need to cry?

Gentle support, whichever way you take it, Jennifer. Keep sorting. Your answers are in there.

Pretty sure being an aspie myself that he can understand more if it is explained to him. While he may not fully understand the reason why you cry. (and alot of men, aspie & non aspie don't understand fully) he would be able to understand "It's not your fault" or "the only thing you can do is not get angry and be kind when I cry".

A further thought I had - if he is dependant on you he may be afraid you will need to go away and he won't have anyone to look after him.

I have aspergers and get angrey at myself when people are expressing emotions i dont understand because of my aspergers and not knowing how to work out whats happening or why or how to help is very difficult and frustrating. Im much better than i used to be with it, im 28 now but i used to be bit like ur son with others emotions.

Thank you everyone

Gentle hug as you sort it out.....xo

Jenniferswe,

Have you thought about going to a meeting with his Therapist and talking about how you express your emotions, where he is in a safe place with someone he knows and can help explain to him that not everyone expresses emotion the same and just because your crying it doesn't mean one set particular thing. They can also explain and help him understand that in those instances he should have compassion vs. anger.

Because most likely this is truly something he just does not understand. His emotional brain does not work the same as yours and it's not always easy to explain things in a way that makes sense so he can understand the difference between people without using words like "normal" or "regular".

Welcome aboard - there are good people here....

Hold on : ) Sometimes that's the best we can do

Does your son have any stress relief behaviours? Like pacing? Explain that crying is yours. My daughter has aspergers and isn't a touchy person but if I am down she does reach over and barely touch me and go right back to what others would say is her ignoring my emotions.
She gets it and her stress relief is to get back to her norm asap.

i am aspier too , i maybe understand your son he may be doesn't understand why you are crying , so he is angry, or he is angry cause he saw you are crying , he is angry to share emotion with you but he don't know how to show it in right situation, So what is the things you can help him to understand ? or he is angry cause you don't understand him so it make him angry, he is so luckily that has father like you cause you are patient father and undersand father....... but in my family, no one know that i have aspier ... until i am 32 i found out that ...., and tell them they look at me like a weird person and they space me in my family, when trouble come i try explain to my parents,but they get upset, they don't understand me , i can explain further ,i am lonely in my family

I understand crying Jenn, much empathy there. And people get angry mostly because they are afraid of something... often subconsciously.