small steps , maybe decide that today you are goingt o do just one thing and maybe take a walk or give up everything sweet ?? One thing a week and it will add up , best of luck Katie xx

I think you're desirable now. There are lots of reasons to lose weight and all the reasons should go back to being good for you. We all find our own motivation.

He would be that way no matter the weight... stop making this about you and make it about him being superficial. it is too bad that women look at themselves and their exterior in order to find the worth. if you are not happy i can understand wanting to lose some weight. if you are trying to prove something to him... success is the best revenge. i wouldnt lose the weight to get back with him tho.. if you think he only wants you for sex. he is no good.

if you really want some fun go youtube "liar" by rollins band. good stuff

I've seen that 12 steps groups works too for eating disorders.

Your life is almost mirroring mine, only l won't have any contact with my ex while so vulnerable and he's so far respecting that so no nookie nookie for either of us it makes life too complicated. You are lovely so don't worry about your weight you may think if you were your old size you'd feel better but it doesn't work that way, you'd just feel unhappy about something else because you're unhappy with breaking up, having bp and life in general.

l put on a lot of weight too as a side effect and l'm only now loosing it because l'm too miserable to eat, but as a fellow food comfort eater l know that if l buy it l'll eat it and probably in a day if its junk food so l'm on my diet shakes and rabbit food nothing else in the house so no choice and l keep myself busy when l can.

l know how it feels to not recognise your body and not fit into any clothes unless elasticated but trying to loose weight when unhappy may not be the right time for you. You're probably the get stable and then make a plan type and for me its amazing what being a singleton and wanting to feel comfortable when dating again does as an insentive to stick with it. Good luck hun you will find motivation because you want to feel like you again start by googling low calorie tasty meals and more importantly snacks l have air popped popcorn flavoured rice cakes and unsalted nuts not peanuts though.

Gabesmom is sooooooo right. Doesn't matter what you do, he's still gonna be him. Meanwhile, as far as being attractive goes, I myself happen to like fluffy women. A lot.

I agree with some of others. He would be the same no matter what your weight. I was in this situation before and once I totally let go (and was ok with it) my weight came off. I felt healthy and like a ton of bricks fell off my back.

i still feel sad but im looking forward to better days. I'm just hurt because i can't believe that this is the kind of person that he really was.

l know hun its a deep disappointment, but if people showed us their true colours during the first date we wouldn't fall for them but its impossible to hide who you really are forever so the rat soon pops out in them, its just a shame we get hurt. Give yourself some time to heal its his loss you'll do just fine.