Bipolar Disorder Support Group

Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.

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grenadine 02/02/2013

I wish I had a best friend, or a boy friend, so I could hang out with someone in a night like this.... it's Saturday night and I'm watching Garden State. I love that movie....

But life has been good. I have accepted myself with bipolar disorder, fully. I work for NAMI and speak to high school students and college students... grad students..... about my experience with bipolar...t's great. I'm also going to school, meditating every day (life changer), exercising almost everyday, swimming laps, making friends with people at the gym.

I am making friends in real life.... but I don't have a best friend. Or someone that I can hang out with regularly and not just meeting up for coffee.

I've been noticing guys lately.... usually I rejoice in being single and knowing myself and loving myself and being there for myself(I used to be the opposite). But I do get lonely even when bipolar life is great.. I am so grateful for everything in my life though...... so maybe I shouldn't complain.

deleted_user 02/02/2013

I am lonely to.. but sorounded all the time. I have two wonderful children I love them dearly. But I really miss having a spouse.

deleted_user 02/02/2013

It's good that you can recognize what you DO have and be positive about that, in my opinion. But who wouldn't want that good buddy and close friend? I hope you find them soon. :)

john12as 02/02/2013

I'm afraid of close relationships because the issues that come up are bigger than my ability to cope.
Sounds like you got a great life, that is what is important, that you are happy.

grenadine 02/02/2013

thanks guys. i find myself listening to my intimate mix wishing i were in love.... i wish i could go back to being strong and alone.... but i am only 24 so im sure its natural to be lonely in that way.....

grenadine 02/02/2013

I'm actually really sad right now.... Lately I've been so happy and stable and workin it, doing my thing and doing it well.... but I'm so lonely right now.... my heart hurts......I don't know if I'm just yearning for good friends/best friend, or if it's about that yucky love stuff..... I just wish my friend who I always talk to was online so we could chat....... i have a feeling I'll be up tonight feeling upset and not getting any sleep. Major :(

cagedDreams 02/02/2013

you know what? it has nothing to do with bipolar; being sad because you don't have any close friends, especially when you're a young adult is a very normal emotion. y, it sucks, i just went through a period of being sad for exactly the same reason :( just need to be careful about what falls into 'life sucks' category and what is bipolar otherwise you start doubting your abilities to cope with your illness as well as your perspective on your state of health!

if you're meeting new people, all is well, just be patient, the right person will come along eventually (so the theory goes) but be very careful not to fall into the trap of thinking you'll be happier or healthier by finding the right person - happiness is something you find within and attachment can cause much suffering...and desperate attachment invites people to take advantage of you!

deleted_user 02/02/2013

I know all too well about being lonely, but i have been that way most of my life even with boyfriends around because they cant relate to me and that is very frustrating, but you can make friends here and its good even though your still at home and not doing something outside of the house. sorry am i making things worse for you , im not trying to but i live a very lonely life as well and i dont have any friends that i can hang out with

deleted_user 02/03/2013

Once you have someone you will realize its not enough, and that will soon stop making you happy as well. Humans always want more, we are never fully satisfied with what we have. I think you are doing well, shouldn't even worry about best friends and men. It clears the chances of you getting hurt down the line.

grenadine 02/03/2013

thank you very much for your advice, lovely people :D

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