Bipolar Disorder Support Group
Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.
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Ok here's the deal, I recently re-learned that BP has strong effects on one's sex drive (mania increases it, depression kills it) and it got me thinking about something thats been a pretty common problem of mine. It never occured to me that it might be caused by my BP.
It seems that my sex drive has moodswings all on it own. I'm constantly hitting a wall that one friend calls my "hot and cold switch". One minute I'm rearing to go, then for no reason it just stops. It's like I turn off. All desire disappears like it was never there. There's absolutely no reason behind it, nothing has been said or done to kill the mood, I'm not having "second thoughts". It happens in an instant. Then I have to try and explain myself which is oh so much fun.
Other times I'll be going about my day to day shit, when, out of nowhere, it's like a damn bomb goes off. I have the nearly over-powering urge to just 'jump' on random people. I even start hyperventilating. I find myself resisting so hard it's physically painful. The desire is so strong it's worth crying over. Thank god I have great self control, esspecially when this happens and I'm at work! Nothing brings this on, it's not like I'm thinking about sex or anything like that. This too just happens, then after awhile vanishes as abruptly as it starts.
WTF!?
I understand that hormones are powerful things, but this is ridiculous. When I describe these situations in better detail to my friends they are amused, but can't relate to such strong or random reactions. It just doesn't happen to them which is weird because many are much more sexually active than I am.
While the given situations can be funny, it's also caused some very embarrasing and uncomfortable times in the past. I want to know if there's another way to deal with this other than waiting it out.
Is this just me? Does anyone else get this way? Could it be caused by BP? If so, is there anyway around it, cause it gets very annoying.
BTW If you're only going to make lewd jokes or comments, I ask that you not. I get enough of those in real life.
Ok here's the deal, I recently re-learned that BP has strong effects on one's sex drive (mania increases it, depression kills it) and it got me thinking about something thats been a pretty common problem of mine. It never occured to me that it might be caused by my BP.
It seems that my sex drive has moodswings all on it own. I'm constantly hitting a wall that one friend calls my "hot and cold switch". One minute I'm rearing to go, then for no reason it just stops. It's like I turn off. All desire disappears like it was never there. There's absolutely no reason behind it, nothing has been said or done to kill the mood, I'm not having "second thoughts". It happens in an instant. Then I have to try and explain myself which is oh so much fun.
Other times I'll be going about my day to day shit, when, out of nowhere, it's like a damn bomb goes off. I have the nearly over-powering urge to just 'jump' on random people. I even start hyperventilating. I find myself resisting so hard it's physically painful. The desire is so strong it's worth crying over. Thank god I have great self control, esspecially when this happens and I'm at work! Nothing brings this on, it's not like I'm thinking about sex or anything like that. This too just happens, then after awhile vanishes as abruptly as it starts.
WTF!?
I understand that hormones are powerful things, but this is ridiculous. When I describe these situations in better detail to my friends they are amused, but can't relate to such strong or random reactions. It just doesn't happen to them which is weird because many are much more sexually active than I am.
While the given situations can be funny, it's also caused some very embarrasing and uncomfortable times in the past. I want to know if there's another way to deal with this other than waiting it out.
Is this just me? Does anyone else get this way? Could it be caused by BP? If so, is there anyway around it, cause it gets very annoying.
BTW If you're only going to make lewd jokes or comments, I ask that you not. I get enough of those in real life.
I found joining caring sites like this give me hope.
with love and light.
Marion
I did learn something about this AFTER I posted that yesterday. When talking to my mother I mentioned the post. To my surprise, she started laughing and said that while my BP could put a spin on things, there's a better chance I inherited these hormonal time bombs from her. Her advice was to take 15mins or so when I suddenly "cool down" to wait for the mood to come back. As for the "frenzy", she couldn't offer suggestions, she just said that I've probably seen her crying in the past for that reason and didn't know why... Thanks a bundle ma! I get the weirdest personality quirks from her (the BP comes from her side of the family too) LOL.
Thanks for the replies anyway :)
The urges (or in my case mainly lack of them) are horrid to live with and I attribute them entirely to bp.
I've come to terms with bipolar accepting I'm going to live with this for the rest of my life and am trying my utmost to do so with happiness and joy. A mood stabiliser has helped me with the extreme swings I used to have,
Hope that helps.
With love and light
Marion