same here , i`m a very introverted person , i only have 2 friends..... well .. i don`t consider them friends anymore because they always hangout without me :( we decided to meet on 1/12 , but they did not call so when i called one of them she said that she went and visited the other one without me , i felt so betrayed at that moment and i wanted to cry but i never did which is not a good sign at all.....

I came to the conclusion that it's better to have acquaintances instead of friends so I don't have a problem not having friends.
Talking with people creates a connection and that's good. But you shouldn't blame yourself for not having friends since it's all dependent on your definitions and viewpoint so far.

I so totally know where you are coming! The progress I have made is not blaming myself for it, and to keep working at it optimistically.

It's important for me to be my own best friend. Several yrs a ago I was hanging around with "the wrong crowd" just to have friends. More recently I had to end a 25 yr friendship because it had become a very bad dysfunctional codependent mess. I guess what I'm saying is that you are better off starting with a clean slate!

You have really struggled and you have no idea why? Because it's hard to make friends!! It's not you, that's just the way it is. Keep looking -- I know it's frustrating because of situations -where/if you work or go to school etc. And it's scary to go beyond the 1st step of talking. You have to take it so slow --that's what's hard for me. I come on too strong with gifts & things and weird people out.
If you work toward it as a goal, it will probably happen.

I am an extroverted person, who has had very few friends

I only really have two friends and I almost never see them. We do text a lot, and that kind of keeps me going. I haven't actually seen my best friend in almost a year (she lives 1 1/2 hour drive from me).

I never have a problem just blah-blahing at the grocery store with strangers but making a real connection is difficult for me. I have recently cut some toxic people completely out of my life and that feels great despite not having anyone to go get coffee with in the area.

Also sometimes I just don't like people. :O

I connect with very few people. I tend to keep to one or two very close friends. I try to be polite to others but I always keep my distance from people. Yes, it is true that toxic people are very bad influences and they can cause severe depression.

I had many friends younger. Now I am much more introverted. I have never wanted to disappoint people and making efforts for long term friendships weren't always my strong suit. Luckily I have a couple friends now I can visit with..maybe see people a few times per month or talk on phone a few times per month.

As long as we are reaching out in some way is all that is important. We don't need to judge ourselves for having few friends or judge what kind of friends they are...online or in person. Sharing with others however you can is great.

Wow thanks everyone! I have lost touch with my college friends. I do try and text them over the holidays and sometimes i get a response. My biggest problem is I am always the one putting the effort. Once I start working it will get better. I do try to talk to people where I volunteer. I know about toxic people, I am trying to not be around those kinds of people.

Well there is always Facebook and Tumblr - that's okay. I run outside a lot. There is an older man who walks. I call him, Eight. Anyway, Eight is my friend, he just doesn't know it and I've never talked to him.

I also made friends with the very aggressive neighbor dog. After I started playing with him he warmed up to me, although if given a chance he probably would still bite me but maybe not kill.

There is a blaze the deer that lives around here. I see him on my runs sometimes.

I live a full life of imagination I guess. lol. I have one friend and we're going to run a 5k together in a week. I haven't actually talked to her in about a year though, she msg'd me and asked me if I wanted to run and I said sure.

I have three close friends and I don't see them nearly as often as I should. I don't think anyone could put up with my quietness and irritability for long so I find reasons to stay by myself alot. I have a roommate who is a best friend but I even lock him out of my room some days just so I don't subject him to my attitude. It is hard to make friends when your moods are constantly changing.

I don't have any friends. I find it very hard to make friends. I am always afraid that I will say the wrong thing or do the wrong thing so I hold myself back. I feel that it is better to be by myself or with my immediate family. I am also afraid of the changes in my mood. Who wants a friend that mood is changing constantly.

Yeah i can understand about the whole mood thing. WHen I was in college I was manic just about all the time. I was always making dirty comments and nobody could say anything without me making something dirty. I felt really bad once I found out what happend and I appologized to my friends. I also had a friend who just could not take all my emotional problems anymore. I do not blame him, he said he felt that my advice was not sincere, I thought i was being a good friend but he could not feel any emotions out of me. I was just hollow and in all sorts of messes. I would not have been a good friend to anybody back then. Now I am stable so I hope I can meet people.

it's getting better for me, but I had to be rejected and hurt badly to get to a place where I could accept friendship. When I was desperate for friends, they could not be found. just don't worry about it. enjoy talking to others and let things evolve. listen to the other person. don't prejudge. it seems like the people I really want to be friends don't want to be friends with me and the people I didn't expect to be friends become my friends.

I will say that usually when I make friends it just comes out of striking up a conversation with people I run into a lot. and it happens when I'm not trying too hard.

and older people are always there for you. I joined a bookclub with older people and they've been supportive. I needed to lick my wounds and hone my social skills in a nonthreatening place.

don't give up!

I had friends once, they all deserted me when I became depressed, suicidal, and was diagnosed with bp. I have acquaintances, and some family members I could do without. I'm not going to put myself out there to make friends, I just don't trust anyone enough to call them my friend, I find when I've needed a friend in the past, when I thought I had friends, they all deserted me. So no I only have cyber friends.
I know they say the world is not an island, but I get by.

i thought i had good friends and family. during the past few years so many people have erased me that i don'r know who or what to trust anymore. I feel that at the end of the day when the chips are down i am on my own.