Grenadine, I think you are taking this situation in the wrong direction. Your mother was honest with you about being hurt and rightly so. To react the way you are will have a negative impact on your relationship with her. It would be better to be grateful that she communicated with you how she felt, take it as a lesson, and learn from it.

I go through this with my 26 year old son and can tell you that it is no fun being on the other side of this equation. I love him but just want him to SHOW he is grateful for the extra mile I go for him. Leaving will teach you nothing except how to run from adult responsibility.

I dont mean to be harsh, but this is not a mature choice on your part. If you think about it and all that your mother does and has done, she obviously loves you very much. It is our responsibility to "teach" and I am sure that is what she is trying to do.

The other option would be for her to stay quiet, stew about it excalating her anger, and then take it out on you by yelling and screaming....I dont think that would be a good option for either of you.

Tough it out and see it for what it is. Not an opportunity to feel sorry for yourself but an opportunity to grow and learn. Hope you can work this out with your mother....xo

Thanks Shelly. I know I'm not acting mature right now, I want things to be okay, but I don't know how to make it right now. I've been dramatic. My mom and my sister are watching out favorite show, and I'm on the other end of the room on the computer. I want to watch with them but I've been so stupid. How can I make it right?

Anyway, thanks Shelly. You gave me some very good advice.

If there is something I have learned in my somewhat could be considered short 22 years on this planet it is that it is NEVER too late to sorry.

"I'm sorry" can seem like the hardest thing to say when you think over your actions and behaviour, but saying sorry really is the easiest thing in the world to say. You just have to realise that by saying that small phrase you are letting people know that you realise that you messed up. We all do it!

Bipolar or not; no one is perfect and we all make mistakes.

Don't be so harsh on yourself, just sit your family down and tell them how you feel, you might be surprised to find that they support you more than they realise.

Also; actions speak louder than words, so if you can afford it a small bouquet of flowers with a note or something, might be the nice gesture you need to break the ice a little bit.

No one is perfect, we have all been there and done that where our families are concerned.

*hug*

I am sure your mom loves you very much and doesn't see you as a burden. You are very lucky to have a mom that will help you like that and while you may have felt appreciative but for whatever reason didn't get around to saying it just remember it needs to be said and moms and dads need to hear it. Make it a goal every day to notice something someone does and say thank you or give a compliment. You sound like a sensitive person and love your family so why don't you just tell her what you said here that you felt like a jerk for not saying thank you first time around and took it out on everyone else with your attitude that you are sorry and love her to pieces and really appreciate what she did for you. Then do something nice for her.

It might sound corny but you can always make her a card with a big I love you and you are the best mom. You are not too old for that :-) My daughter is 30 years old and still does that for me from time to time. Although now she goes and buys them LOL. It goes a long way. Like Shelly said there is no need to run from things like this but just learn from it.

If you can't survive on your own you need to learn how to appreciate and show appreciation for your mom. She just doesn't want to be taken advantage of, which is understandable.Shelly gave you some excellent advice.

Thank you guys. The situation blew over. I apologized to my mom for acting the way I did and told her I really am thankful for what she did for me and I know now that I need to verbalize my thanks and that it's very necessary. She assured me it was okay and we hugged. We then watched a show together and all was forgiven and back to normal. I love my mom so much. I might just write her a card telling her so. Thanks again for the advice.

And I didn't starve myself, I ate.

glad to hear it!

well I'm a little late here but I want to say I'm glad things worked out!

I am very proud of you Grenadine. You took some time to process what was happening and you turned it around to the positive. Dont be so hard on yourself. Give yourself time to process the things that happen and act on them. This is a great video and worth watching.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qnQAVRbdHnM&feature=channel

There are several more there that are also good you may want to watch. The more pro-active we are with this disorder, the more we work at managing it, the better life we can live. xo

Thanks everyone for your positivity and support. It's nice to have people like you there for me even if I feel like a total idiot.

Shelly, special thanks to you for sticking with me. I hear "don't be so hard on yourself" a lot.... and it's true, I really am hard on myself. Hopefully that can change. I'm going to watch your video now, thanks again for your support.

Hey-This is just like ME about (42-19 is?)...23 years ago, except I am the youngest in my family.

You can thank your mom, but also work on maybe trying to create wellness and get independent so that you can have a life of our own where you can not get yelled at so much.

ekatepnha, what does (42-19 is?) mean? I'm confused. Also I was just having a bad time hating on myself and you post made it worse. Thanks, I know I need to be independent but I am still in recovery from what happened this summer. Sometimes I think it's never going to happen and if it does I'll end up in low income housing and become trashy and miserable. fejEFOIAJDIFN

Don't worry too much grenadine. Some of us like myself have made many terrible and irresponsible mistakes and some times it takes time to get a handle on our problems. I'm still working on my problems and I'm in my 30s. I am in low income housing and depending on where you live it's not that bad. I had to do what I had to do to become independent. but some can't be independent. some people need to be cared for. Just take your time and when you feel ready I'm sure you will be come independent some day. You need to do what is right for you. Just also keep your moms feelings in mind and don't beat your self up just admit when you've made a mistake and do your best not to repeat mistakes.