I always think it's wonderful news when I hear of a pregnancy!! I know you are probably freakin' out right now but you will come through this somehow and I bet it winds up being a blessing!! My best friend in HS got pregnant the first time she ever had sex at 16 and she has done amazing things in her life while raising a wonderful son. All I can say is Congrats!!

If you wanna go off on me for being positive about it I'll understand!!

Big hug for you sweetie... If you're on meds I would make an appt with your doc asap to makes sure that the baby is safe

A wee human being!!... Another hug for ya and a blessing for both of you...xo

Hang in there, for the Baby's sake!

ive been there..many years ago...I didn't even know who the Dad was...I contemplated an abortion.

I'm so grateful for my son....And...you will be grateful too..its not easy..and yup my Mom freaked out..but she got over it...

you more have to worry about how you will deal with having a child depend on you for every little thing.

I was also 21....bringing me memories...I hummed and horde over abortion...my life would have been easier if I had the abortion...but is it about being easy? If you do choose abortion...its ok too...its just about how you feel about being a Mom.

If you can't fathom it....than do it...if you can...than you and your baby will live happily.

Sorry your scared...yup...scary...and now decisions...that you don't want to make at 21. :(...good luck to you. whatever you choose.

iam, I am sorry you are in this position it's really scary right now

There but for the grace of god go I 20 years ago but luckily for me and I stress 'me' I didn't get pregnant but it all happened when I was high as a kite and I wasn't myself

Prayers for you in abundance iam and I hope everything works out for you whatever you choose to do. Try and keep calm, easy words I know.

Abortion is definitely out of it for me. I'm pro choice in general but personally it's not for me. What's freaking me out the most is having to break my boyfriend's heart like this. Thanks for the positive feedback My tdoc said I needed to hear congrats and all that good stuff. I'm not on meds (thankfully?) so I don't have to worry about that.

my instinctive reaction to the news of a baby is always one of joy. congrats to you. don't panic yet, you don't know if it is or isn't your bf's child. you mention 'sort of' had sex with someone else? in all this confusion are you sure of your dates? can you wait and get tested before you take steps you don't need to take. let things settle in your head and heart for a little bit before acting in haste. your mother will get over it. this is a precious time for you and we are all here for you no matter what! big fat hugs to you!

I agree with Irish. A baby is a joyous blessing even of circumstances and timing isn't what you imagined. Congratulations and huge hugs! I'm here if you ever want to talk.

Thanks much guys. The only part of this that's really bothering me is the fact that I'm not entirely sure whose it is. Sigh. I never wanted to be that girl, you know? I don't intend to tell my bf til June when his finals are done cos I don't want the news to affect how he does on his exams. I owe him that much. I can do a pre-natal paternity and trisonomy test- that is supposed to detect abnormalities which I think is a good idea but that's $70,000 JMD or roughly $700 USD. The post-natal test is half that since it's just one test and the pre-natal test cannot be done without the trisonomy. Sadly. Decisions, decisions, decisions. I'd love to not have to tell my bf of the possibilities but at a time like this I'm gonna have to start considering costs even more than before. I'm not sure what to do. If I could get a loan that would be great. Sigh. Hello parenthood. Lol

Er, that's supposed to be trisomy.

Awww a baby. My first thought is one of joy, too. Iam, wouldn't you think the majority of pregnancies are unplanned? Yet people keep having perfectly healthy babies. This will work out for you and your mom will come around. Take good care of yourself.

P.S. I've always wanted to say, "I'm eating for two".

Depending on your desired outcome, I think your approach here would be to not tell BF that it's not his. After all it requires a DNA test to be sure.This is a strategy that's as old as time, and again depends on what you wish.

Lol. Me too and now I can. Think I'll make some of those cool maternity t-shirts. With quotes like 'Baby on Board'

I'm not sure if I can do that. I mean, I took the morning after... the morning after I was with the other guy but these things fail. As much as I don't want to break his heart I think it's the right thing to do.

Congratulations, then.~ Think of it this way (if you plan to keep it no matter what), once you have your child in your arms, it'll all be okay.

I had a friend who got pregnant unexpectedly a year ago, and she's the happiest person I know today.

The most important thing is to take care of your mental, physical, and emotional well-being right now. Does Jamaica have Planned Parenthood? PP and local health departments offer gynocological visits and prenatal vitamins (I think maybe ultrasounds too? but I can't swear to it) for very low costs.

Another thing you can do is to call an Unplanned Pregnancy Helpline. Please don't call one run by pro-lifers, though, or any organization with an agenda aside from empowering pregnant mothers to make choices that are best for themselves.

I know you know this, but you can always opt for adoption if abortion isn't something you think you can deal with. Adoptions can be done through a formal adoption agency, or informally through a couple you choose on your own. You can keep the adoption "open" so that you can maintain contact with the adoptees and your child.

The only thing that matters right now are you and your choices, and your health. I know family members'/partner's anger can be hard to deal with, but at the end of the day, everyone's opinion but your's is irrelevant, because your well-being is the most important thing.

We're all here if you need us. I can try to find you some resources if you need them. I've never been pregnant, but I thought I was once (I had a double false-positive which is extremely rare, but it happens). I can look up numbers and organizations for you if you can think of anything you need.

You can also look up a general list of local resources in your area.

Everything is going to be okay. I know it doesn't seem like it now, but it will be.