Bipolar Disorder Support Group

Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.

8,884 Members
129,554 Posts
0 Online
Mental Health
/ Bipolar Disorder Support Group

I hate my life

Jenniferswe
Jenniferswe

Well I just bought a "good" used car.  It's a 2009 Kia Rio.  For the 1st few days it ran fine.  Then the battery would drain out overnight.  I didn't leave anything on.  I bought the car at Carmax and I took my dad with me.  Normally he's good at picking out cars.  I took the car to be fix by them and got it back a couple days ago.  I didn't go anyway yesterday because of the lockdown.  I wanted to go through a nearby drive through restaurant and the cars battery was drained!  Furious, I take the car back to Carmax and tell them the problem.  They give another loaner and said the mechanics will be back on Monday.


Why did I buy a car?  Be like and idiot I wrecked Chevy during a hail storm.  The roads were clear when I left home.


I was really dreading buying a car for this reason.  I was afraid of getting a lemon.  I'll probably ask for my money back since it's less than 30 days.  Then I'll go elsewhere and probably get stuck with another lemon.  I got lucky with the Chevy.


I've really had a lot of suicide idealization lately.  Today I was ready to go dive of the bridge into the icy waters of the Clackamette river.  I feel so cursed.  Bad things keep happening to me.  I feel so incompetent that I can't pick out a decent car.  Of course, My work put me on furlough so less money.  I can't see my boyfriend or anyone else because of the virus.  I'm such a coward for not going down and diving into the river or hanging myself.  I've hated living for several decades now.  You'd think I be feed up enough to push me over the edge by now.  I think one of these days something will.

Alittlelostinside
Alittlelostinside
Picking out a good second hand car is just pure luck. Unless ur a trained mechanic u wouldn't know what's good and bad.and most of us aren't mechanics. It's just mostly luck.
Even the seller might think they are selling a good car and something bad unexpected could happen the day they sell it because that's old cars for you.

Please don't be so hard on yourself. Hugs
Thor2008
Thor2008
Picking out a used car is difficult and getting a lemon is not uncommon. You bought it at CarMax which is a reputable dealer, you should be able to get your money back or get a different car. You can get through this. Don't despair.
Sunshinegirl0228
Sunshinegirl0228
I bought my car from a Ford dealership. It is certified preowned. In the first six months it was on the shop twice but because it was certified the repairs were done without cost to me. Try Ford
Deckard
Deckard
Jennifer, I have had suicidal ideas for a decade or so too. You are not alone. I guess I look at it like this at times. We were given a gift. We should not look look the gift horse in the mouth. Dunno. My first car was a lemon. I know the feeling.
beckyp
beckyp
I'm sorry this happened to you. I'm sure Carmax will take care of the problem for you. We have bought 2 cars from them, and even though we didn't have the problem you are having, they have always taken care of things that happened.. Overall Carmax has been a good place to buy cars from. Try to think positive thoughts. I used to have suicidal ideations for many years. One thing that has helped me is positive self-talk. It doesn't happen over night, but after a while my thoughts started to be more positive than negative. This has saved my life. My therapist helped me with this. Just listen to yourself and when you hear or think a negative thought, change that thought to something positive. I know I make it sound easy, but it is a process and I got better and better using this method. I still take my meds though, so don't stop them.
Jenniferswe
Jenniferswe
Thank you everyone.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
I would pay for a mechanic to check out a used car before you buy it.... I'm surprised these car lots are still open right now

It's unfortunate.... You may need to get a new battery??…. Big hug....xo
Deckard
Deckard
New battery or an electrical system problem. I would get the money back.
MisterMojoRisin
MisterMojoRisin
Shot alternator is usually the culprit 9 times outta' 10. Can probably get one re-conditioned if you check the scrapyards and pick-a-part type places, or even the larger dealerships can sometimes order them. Wouldn't spend over a hundred bucks on it. Most likely, a lot less, if you dig for the good deals
Jenniferswe
Jenniferswe
It has a new battery. I'm probably going demand my money back. These cars sound like their more trouble than they're worth.
OlderCPer
OlderCPer
I don't know how long you've had it, but I think Carmax only gives a 7 Day money back guarantee. Unfortunately with used cars, unless you have a warranty, you get what you buy, as their is no way to tell when something is going to go wrong. It does sound like the alternator though.
irishwriter
irishwriter
I had the same problem with my focus and after being given the run around by 'expert' mechanics who kept telling me that the radio light not going out (I discovered this by chance one night when I saw it lit up when I went outside) , they dismissed the idea so I googled it, located the fuse for the damn radio, removed it myself and have had no issues since. It is a great car. worth checking out the electrics if it has a new battery and no alternator issues - something has to be draining your battery. check youtube for issues with your make and model. It would be a shame to lose a good car over something small and have to start searching all over again. These days 11yrs is not that old for a car.
nocalove
nocalove
Don't be so hard on yourself. You did the best you could.

I hope you start to feel better soon.
Jenniferswe
Jenniferswe
Thanks guys. They found out it's parasitic drain caused by the radio. They are doing their best to fix as told by them.
Posts You May Be Interested In
  • Community LeaderSunCloudJD

    Hello Monday

    Posted by: SunCloudJD
    Last Reply: SunCloudJD
    4
    Hey All...I hope that you have a lovely, peaceful beginning of your weekI have a bunch of chores that need doing but may put them off til tomorrow and just hang out with my landlord/roomie todayWhat about you?...Anything special going on?Have a great day and take good care of you!!..Xo
  • Sunshinegirl0228

    Dr. Appointment

    Posted by: Sunshinegirl0228
    Last Reply: Sunshinegirl0228
    3
    Once again I've had a fever today. I'm not going to the hospital because that's a huge waste of time but I did schedule a dr appointment for Wednesday afternoon.