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I have to move in with my parents this weekend. Living with them is like living in the midst of WWIII. I'm finishing up my graduate degree and don't have a job yet. Grrr. My mom is one of my big triggers, too. Sometimes I just have to yell at her to STOP before she sends me off the deep end. I've got the suicidal thoughts, too...only I've got plans...yeah, lots of good plans running through my head. Only nobody wants to hear my crap. Whenever I try to reach out for help, I just get told "I don't want to hear this, Liz" so I just shut up. How hard is that? When you're suicidal and just told to shut up? It makes me want to scream! And I know I must sound like the worst daughter in the world....everybody tells me how moving back home to be with my "supportive" parents is a great thing. Yeah, really great. No, not really great. Oh, and you're my age. See? We do have a lot in common. Sorry, I'm not trying to hijack your thread or anything....Just want to let you know you're not alone. There is somebody out there in the same boat as you....(((HUGS)))

No its not hijacking....it's very cool to know I'm not the only person feeling the same way.

Parents unfortunately are often not very helpful.

Obviously you need to be in a "safe place" while your meds are sorted out. Concentrate on that but maybe be thinking once you are straightened out and are probably more able to hold down a job (I know it's not an easy time right now)..and use your mom's as a base for finding a job and escaping from the prison camp.

I had a lot of issues with my mom when I was first diagnosed. She spent a lot of time walking on eggshells around me and trying not to trigger an episode. It took a lot of yelling and arguing with her before she sat down and listened to me. Now she goes to one therapy session a week with me, and things have gotten better between us.

Can you ask your mom to go to a few sessions with you?

I hope things get better for you soon.{{{{{HUGS}}}}}

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Sympathy. Big hugs xx

You sound alot like my oldest son. I see the strong possibility that he will be moving back home after running up lots of debt and he has no job. He cant afford his rent or his debt and he is a recovering opiate addict.

From my perspective as a parent, I would say this. You need a "safe" place but for you, like my son, it is not a safe place unless you have an understanding when you move back home. The understanding has to run both ways because each side has challenges based on your moving back home.

You are trying to sort out your meds, get a job, and pay off debt. They are trying to "accept" that they may have failed you, changes in the dynamics of their home, and stress over you not being well.

Sit down and communicate very openly as soon as you get home. Actually, warn them that is what you want to do right away. Make a plan and stick to it.............The most important thing is to have no "expectation" on either side but a general set of rules. Something like, Respect each others privacy, define household rules, define personal space, share where you are emotionally and what you need from them to help your stability, define your goals and what you plan to do when you move in, ie. work on getting a job, getting your meds right, therapy, etc.

Since it goes both ways, they will or should have things they will require of you and you of them as far as how you live together and get along. Agree to disagree. Not all parents and adult children see eye to eye on certain matters. As an adult, you have a right to make your own decisions as long as they dont break the rules of the house, ie. parties, unhealthy friends, risky behavior.

I think you get the idea of what I am trying to say. My son and I have already begun talking about it and it is important that things are clear, otherwise there are no boundaries and everything is up for grabs which makes for a very volatile environement. Absolutely not safe for you or healthy.

It is important to make a plan for yourself. A personal plan of action to take care of you. Know everything you can about the disorder you are dealing with and the meds you are taking so you can help your parents understand. Make a plan of action and a plan for healthy living, ie. regular exercise, supplements, meditation, safety zone boundaries etc.

I wish you the best on your return home sweetie. Take care of you. Hugs

I wanted to say something to you last night, but I was in such a state that I was afraid of going off on a detrimental tangent and making things worse. I can understand how you feel about your mom, my mom is like my biggest trigger, just staying with her a few days before her wedding had me feeling 16 and trapped again. I could never go back to stay with her long term. But take advantage of the chance you have to stay somewhere "safe" spend time on here talking to people to reassure yourself that your not nuts, or if you have friends there from long ago who can remember all the things that drove you nuts when you were with her before so you can just refer to "then" instead of explaining it all. That helped me when I was at my mom's. Find something to dedicate yourself to hobby wise and the time will fly by soon the economy will heal and jobs will return and you can work and forget about this time. Be glad that your not working while they get the meds arranged. (Annoying side effects like dosing off constantly are more troublesome at work than "home") And just remind yourself that it isn't permanent and it will get better, you need this now but soon your life will be yours again and you can do with it what you will.

I'm sorry you have to move back into home. It's tough, but you are so lucky to have a parent to move back in with.
It's not a prison sentence, it's just a really bad time for everyone at the moment.
Normal people are moving back in with their parents.
This is one of the hardest economic times we will ever see in our life times.
Time to bunker down, sort out your finances, when times improve you will again be able to move out again.
Work out a frame work with your Mum so that you compromise stuff. Remember it's not easy for your parents either. they are doing this becasue they love you.

Best of luck
MJ

i don't have to move in with my parents but iv'e been out of work for 3 years applying for ssdi so i feel like iv'e been in prison. anyways at least you have somewhere to go and maybe things will work out-good luck!

you've probably thought over every possibility...but do you have a cool aunt or something who would understand and take you in with less of a chance for constant triggering...? i would end up hospitalized in no time flat if i had to move in with my parents, but i do have two cool aunts who would take me in if it were necessary, and i know there would be more of a chance to heal there than with my parents...good luck whatever path you take, xx, beep.

I'm sorry that you're forced to live somewhere that you don't want to be, but look at it this way, at least you have a place to go. And maybe the time will go by quickly until you get things straightened out. Try and stay busy so you can stay off your mom's radar.