Parents are funny things and alot can't deal with the thought that there is "something wrong" with their children. others of course seem to delight in it.

At the end of the day, your parents are people. Just as clueless, loving, blind, supportive, callous and caring as other people.

But they are still your parents at the end of the day so they are hard to ignore.

I've not solved it yet and I'm running out of time.

I'm still trying to work out children too.

I just wish I had money to go buy a pack of smokes. I'm so stressed.

Yeah, she's still my mom but it felt like she broke my heart when she said it. She didn't even say it nicely. She was cold and mean about it. This is the same women who is anorexic and is on stomach meds because she tells the doctor she can't eat. So she just gets the meds and still doesn't eat. She's a total pill popper. She'll get stressed out and say, "Oh I need a stomach pill." And I see her take a xanax out of her pill case. She has always been a pill popper. She is so thin you can see and feel every rib she has. It makes me sick to look at her because I know she is trying to kill herself.

I know how frustrating that is, boy you've been running into alot of that these days : (

you and only you know whats good for you, everyone has opinions, they are just that opinions...if they lived in our heads, minds would change.

My parents said the the same at the beginning of my last episode, like a dufus, i went off everything.....fast forward...ER with my parents and a guard under suicide watch....

I guess in some wierd way they learned a lesson, they recently found out i lost my coverage and crapped their pants,"SHE NEEDS HER MEDS!!!"

That was just my experience tho, but like i said, this is all about you, no one else...do your best for YOU

the sad thing is that sickness can make us mean at times. We've seen it here - people are supportive sometimes and struggle at others. And we all have something in common.

Really this is all part of extended learning. We discover our parents are not perfect at some point and sometimes we have to find ways of saying to ourselves, "yes you are my parent and I love you but you are not my doctor and you actually know less about me than you think"

That's not an easy thing to do. Even more difficult is to take that learning and put it into your relationships with your children if you have them.

I'm sorry to hear about your mother illness - sometimes again you have to be the parent.

Finally, please don't smoke. I buried a wife from lung cancer - a life cut short.

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im sorry if i offend but your mom sounds hypocritical and in need of some help herself, regardless we love our parents, but they are human, and humans can be damaged. Take everything into consideration when it comes to her advice(you sound like you already are)

people dont realize the fallout from this disorder, shit, we gotta deal with the actual bipolar, then here comes the stigma and opinion bus!!!

My mom and dad tell me that every time I talk to them. I just ignore it and move on.

Shlay, (((BIG HUG)))) I KNOW it sucks!

Fish said some wise words, which I needed to hear!!!

I also run here when blindsided by parents! At least YOU see a positive difference with meds, that is a blessing right there! It's wonderful to have the board and my friends, to help detach from the stuff that comes out of my parents mouth!

OMG! Without cigs? They worst! Wishing you relief ASAP!

I'm so sorry fish, I had no idea. I'm trying to quit but it's just hard.

And yes, my mom is just sick and most of the time I can block it out when she's talking about herself... But when she lets it out on me it breaks my heart. I don't react to it anymore. I just said, "don't you remember me without my meds" and she said, "Yeah you were happy." I said "Did you not see how much of an emotional wreak I was?" she said "You've been on them so long I don't remember." GAH

Justletmebe, you said nothing but the truth, so no worries!

It's my mom who would be giving me the cigs. So, no cigs for me unless she feels nice.

My sister is a therapist ad she told me she knew two women who were cured BPers!!!. She went to a confere later and boy did she have egg on her face. She had to eat her words!!!

I would just say uh huh uh to you mom and dowhat you want.
I would fight her at all.

I don't plan on saying anything else to her, Marilyanna. If I say anything to oppose her, I get hell- the 7th level.

Sorry I can't add much more than what others have said at this point. I'm not real good at advice anyway, so sorry for that too. I do personally agree that parents don't always know what's best.

I went off my meds at around age 24 and went completely manic for the 2nd time in my life. It set me back a huge deal. Took forever to get "back" to feeling anything like my former self again. I hope for you that you are able to listen to your gut and your treators and do what's best for YOU not what your mother thinks. Good luck!

I have no intention of going off my medication! It just sucked that my mom thinks it's in my head. I know what it's like to not be on my meds and I never want to be there again.