Hey everyone...I'm desperate! I have some major issues like everyone here, but I've only recently come to see, understand and accept exactly what they are. I have been married to the most wonderful womann for over 9 years and we've been together for more than 11. We've had our "long discussions" about how tough it is being around me, never being sure of how to say anything because shes not sure if I will be majorly upset or just shrug it off and how I need her to be happy and positive all the time or I get more upset because I feel as though it's part of my duty as a husband to take care of her and the kids. When she's frustrated and upset I want to do something to help. I believe I am bi-polar, however I've never been tested or diagnosed. I've been on prozac and xanax for several years with lexapro intermittently during some extreme stress times and it's helped immensely. I found out last May that my three stepkids were abused by their biologic father and then my dad died in July (he was my best friend next to my wife), our finances have been in tatters for quite some time now and I'm just trying to get a bead or handle on some of this AND deal with my emotional issues. She announced to me last night that she doesn't know how much longer she can stand being around me the way I am and that she's more or less for the past several months just been staying out of obligation, not love...in other words, how much longer she can take living with me the way I am. I love her so much and there are so many examples of divine intervention to get and keep us together over the years and I don't want to lose her. Does anyone have any ideas?? Please help!! I am desperate to win her affections and work with her to build the rest of our lives together...I really don't want to start over at 38!! HELP!!!!!