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haveing a hard time

meme88
meme88
growing up..i was babied growing up didnt get everything i wanted. i wasnt like those kids u see on tv. but i was spolied and babied over protective mum cuz i was a premmie and barely lived. So now im here at 20 havent finish high school noir am i in high school ,part time job, no care or drivers linces,Only real thing i have to pay for is my visa,monthy products and my meds(not full price) p-doc appomnets not a whole lot. for the pass year my mum and dad ,boyfriend have been pushing me to get things done fiuger out what im doing.(my rents tie toe around it my bf just blod about it cuz he says he really wants a future if with me but he has to know i can handle responablity) understand able i feel like i will be like my twin cuzin who are 25 and just moveing out i greatly dont want to be like that..i was talking to my cuzin(not the twins) he says he is also haveing a hard time..hes a yr younger then me..or is it two..anyways is it normal to have a hard time..In a way i wish i wasnt spoiled as a kid..then agin its not my fult my famliy owns a bar and has money..one day i will have to work for that bar. i hope bookkeeping anyways what do u all think>?
meme88
meme88
no wisdom? lol
tommymott
tommymott
I think it's normal to have a hard time. I think we all get what we want though we don't always want what we get.
Shelly4
Shelly4
Mem, we have to made a choice that we are not our past..............we have to make our own way based on the choices we make to move forward. Decide what you want out of life and start accomplishing it one thing at a time. The more focused you are, the further you will get and one day look back at a different past than your parents spoiling you..................
deleted_user
deleted_user
It took me years to overcome a lot of things from my past, but that's not to say it will take you that long. One thing I've come to learn is, I can't change my parents' behavior in the past, but can accept them as they are NOW. Live in the present, be with your boyfriend and see where it goes. Write down some things you might like to do with your life. Remember, this moment is all you have, yesterday will never come again.

Best of everything.
Kate
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hey girl you are still very young so dont be too hard on yourself
If you are interested in bookeeping then go for it learn perhaps take a course.
Baby steps are good if you look at one thing at a time you wont be overwhelmed
You can start a budget perhaps and look at what the needs are to live as opposed to the wants
I wish you well on your new path
deleted_user
deleted_user
Your still in school. Slow down. My daughter is 22 and still at home. Be grateful if you can stay at home. My father died when I was 18 and I HAD to find a way to support myself and find a home as we were not rich. Take your time.
polarbare
polarbare
If your goal is to one day work for the bar, then your choices lie there... bookkeeping is one option or even go one step further to an accountant, look into some business courses... do you see yourself only working for them or perhaps taking on a stronger role.... this would be important to making a decision...

It appears that you have several areas to focus on... if you want a drivers license, then write the test and go from there... if you haven't finished high school, then take the GED... or go to an adult high school that will help you graduate... speak to a counselor at a career center...

Is is better that you focus on the present and take steps to make a stronger future... you are 20 and that is still young and enough time to make the changes you need... change is always hard but it is possible, if you have the desire .... good luck ((hugs)) polar
vickybea
vickybea
Hi meme, we find our feet at different times remember life isn't a race yes we go to school at the same time but after that its up to us and if you aren't ready yet thats just fine. l had to leave home at 16 way to young so l'm glad you have your parents so close for you to lean on if you need them because 20 is still young.

l was 25 when l went to college and 27 when l went to uni, going back to study now l'm 41 meme its never too late wait and see...
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am getting what you are saying. Maybe a better choice of words, beside spoiled would be sheltered. You lived a sheltered life and now you feel unprepared for the real world ahead......right??

I may be you 14 years later. I am married and have 3 boys and live next door to my parents. The product of a sheltered life.......

You are young and can make your own choices. Break free a little and live as your own woman, or stay sheltered and unprepared......