Bipolar Disorder Support Group

Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.

8,884 Members

129,554 Posts

1 Online

dogs1995 12/30/2015

I've been away for the past few weeks on vacation and haven't been very active- but hello again everyone!

Has anyone had an experience with a friend (or a group of friends) distancing themselves from you because depressive episodes make you less 'fun' to hang out with?

I'm 20 years old and my friends don't understand why I don't want to drink/party all the time anymore and the past few days they have barely spoken to me and flat out didn't invite me to a large gathering where all our friends would be.

Luckily, I have a few amazing girlfriends and my boyfriend who would never do such a thing so I don't feel totally lonely. It just sucks that they're excluding me because I'm not as 'fun' when I'm depressed (which, as a type 2, is a lot).

cherylmcgr 12/30/2015

Hi there, I have found that party friends come and go. They only like to be around during the good time. True friends are always there. With that said I have lost contact with alot of friends because i always said no to invites because i was to depressed to go out and they stopped asking me. I just started reconnecting with them again. I hope you feel better and Your true friends stay true.
Hugs

spacekat 12/30/2015

I have to ditto what Cheryl said: True friends stay true and they are the ones you want to keep. A long time ago it seems, people also stopped inviting me out places because I always said no. That's okay, I don't want to go anyway.

theatrediva 12/30/2015

Yep i have been there. Many times the friends I partyed with also included doing drugs with so when I would stop "partying" because I was so depressed the drugs didnt help anymore those so called friends didnt want to lose their high probably because they were scared of deaking with their own issues so they would run. Oh well the real friends are the ones who stick around for the whole show. Sounds like you have those.

angiebettin 12/30/2015

I feel the same. I have n friends but one here from ds that lives in another state. My husband would never let me go visit here, and i just started a new couple of meds on top of what i have. I will pray foru if you pray for me. I have a son thats dosnt drink, one that maybe does once a week an another maybe once a year. You can stay strong. I havnt drank in10 yrs. U can do it, i have faith in you. You soon, i know will meet friends like you, here on ds. Talk to me anytime. All my sons are in their 20's. U csn count on me to understand. If you need me , i am here for you darling! Smile, you are doing the right things.

1bummedout 12/30/2015

Hugs. Sometimes we find out who our friends are. Do not worry. There are many kind souls. Prayers in the meantime & hugs

got2breal 12/30/2015

That sounds about right when your not fun so much and have to talk about the tough issues you see who your true friends are. Stick with the true friends that love you when you are up and down.

MoobbusT 12/30/2015

I used to worry about what other people thought until I realized they mostly are thinking about their own lives and not anything to do with me. I was rarely under consideration so it didn't matter.

dogs1995 12/30/2015

Thanks everyone for the replies!

It just hurts because I've been friends with this group of people for my entire life. But you're all right- real friends would stick by me and a shitty friend would exclude me or abandon me when I'm down.

I need to remember that most people are too caught up with themselves to even think about whether or not it would hurt my feelings!!! And if you meet these people... you'd understand just how self absorbed they are!!! Thank god for my few good friends though. Not all hope is lost lol

Thanks everyone!

joneszy93 12/30/2015

Yep. I'm going through that right now. My best friend and I'd been best freinds with since 7th grade (7 or 8 years) doesn't want anything to do with me anymore and I think it's because I can't drink and party anymore because of the meds that I'm on and because I get depressed from time to and when I get depressed I don't want to hang out. And it's literally to the point where she's literally replaced me with a new best friend; she plastered it all over facebook with the word best friend. Like already mentioned, if they're a true friend, they're stick by your side no matter what. And also like Sunny metioned, having this illness shows you who your real friends are.

Join the Conversation