My Gran's Great Nephews/Great Nieces are all Teachers, Nurses, Quantity Surveyors. So, no pressure, eh!

You feel like a loser? I closed and retired from private practice as a counselor and then spent the next 7 years living with my parents, trying to commit suicide 7 times.
I had a very late onset of bipolar. Now I'm thinking I may be able to handle working p/t in a box store retailing cheap merchandise. You think you are a loser? You are not a loser, neither of you. My family is toxic and I finally got an apartment. I barely have enough ssdi to get through the month so parents are still subsidizing me financially. I hate it. However, I'm a work in progress and I'm interviewing for jobs. You can do it.

HUGS, sfagrad - it's both easy and typical for us to compare ourselves to others, or to what we have been able to do in the past, etc - it's just not where we Are, and comparing doesn't Get us anywhere.

Still we do it. Me included, but it's only when I live in Today Only, and do the best I can with That, that I get any comfort and happiness.

I'm sure this is not where you imagined, or even where you Want to be, but I hope it can be Enough for Today.

HUGS

Look at what you have been battling and conquering! The results are invisible to others, esp others who don't know how hard you have been working. You are not a loser. You feel like you don't have as much to show for all of your hard work, but you are not a loser. ((hugs))

We are NOT LOSERS! We have a debilitating illness. And considering how serious it is, with all of it's ups and downs I think were strong and courageous. A normie wouldn't be able to put up with all that we have to go through. It's a hard life but we're living it.
Pats on the back for us, all around!

Thank you everybody. I have supportive parents. They know I am trying. I do have an apartment so I can be I independant and I like it. It gets lonely being by myself all the time though. I am working my plan.

No. You are not a loser. I want to share something with you that will show you how important it is for you to stand up for yourself and to love yourself for who you are:

If you compared me to my son, you would find that he stands up for himself but I allow people to let me be and say and do whatever. We will call my son "Robert" for the sake of this sharing.

1-I joined a conservative faith institution with political ideologies which are the exact opposite of mine. Robert joined a faith institution that reflects more of what his beliefs are.

2- I put up with the emotional abuse of other people. My son Robert does not put up with the emotional abuse of other people.

3. I go and do what others say. If my son Robert doesn't feel like it, he doesn't do it (just speaking of things which are non obligatory, not things which are necessary in society).

Robert is 11 and I am 47. Which one is true to themselves?

Robert.

Be like Robert. Be true to yourself and love yourself. You are a survivor, not a loser.

Much Agape and Hugs,

Miss Cate

You are Not a loser. Nobody here is. We do the best we can while managing a difficult illness.

Volunteering is a very noble thing to do. In my opinion, all jobs are Noble and worthy of respect. Well not criminal jobs, but good honest jobs. Don't get down on yourself for feeling at a different 'level' than others. I know it's easier said than done, but coming to terms with limitations that BP can sometimes bring has helped me feel more adequate, or that I matter. Hugs!!

I can understand feeling like a loser. I am not where I thought I would be at this stage in my life but thats based on what society thinks. Based on my life experiences I am right where I should be. Its different from so many others my age but fuck it, it is what it is. To me it sounds like you have some pretty good things going for you and you are working towards realistic goals not just sitting on your ass. I'm sure your friend doesn't think your a loser because your not. Try to focus on what your doing and working towards. Try not to be so hard on yourself. Take care

I can relate the first few years I had to move in with my parents I just wanted to die. I NEVER wanted to live back in this town and had moved from a big city and found it utterly depressing. I took me a few years to accept it and just be grateful I had good parents who would take me in. It has truly wound up being a blessing in disguise to get to spend so much time with my parents that I otherwise would have never seen but a couple of times a year like I was doing.I STILL live here!! Going on 8 years. You are in no way a loser. (((Big Hugs)))

You are blessed to have kind and supportive parents. My parents are toxic and mean.

Thank you everybody for your words of encouragement. I had a nice talk with my parents about it and I feel a little better. I am trying to look at things differently.

Success is not measured by how far you've gone,
but by how far you've come.

Right on, Dobie! I often fear that my marriage will fall apart and I'll have to move in with my mother. She is a bear of a woman and I haven't been able to spend more than 2 days with her in the past 10 years. I feel like a loser just being as freaking dependent on my husband as I am. But WE ARE NOT LOSERS. If we were, we wouldn't be aware of it. The fact that you're expressing yourself means you're more self-aware than you give yourself credit for. I'm glad you had a nice conversation with your parents. A little love goes a long way.