Good questions and I'm sorry but I don't have the answers. I do know that throughout most of my life I have felt alone in the darkness with my pain and feeling like no one was there to help while I was there to help others. I have learned through some very hard lessons that there are people there to help but I never reached out. We have to want to help ourselves first, above everyone else. If you feel that no one is there for you, try to be there for yourself. Take care

I understand. I am everyone's dumping ground. I listen to everyone and open my heart to them. And then when I need someone to listen to me, it is tough luck.

I can't see anyone until insurance starts up again, if my husband keeps me on it... it picks up on the first hopefully it will work out. My family who actually have this disorder deny it and won't offer me support. My husband leaves my ever year telling me how horrible I am then finds other women then comes back to me saying he was wrong. 8 years of pain in my marriage and I desperately try to hold on to him

I am so sorry for all of the pain that you are feeling darling. Some times even when you are alone you need to take some time for yourself. To think things through and work through the things from either your present or your past that are causing you so much pain. Sometimes we spend so much time helping other people that we end up neglecting ourselves. I hope that you find peace and healing.

I think that at some point you have to stop giving into the people who drain you with there constant needs and start going to the places where people can help you. Places like Support Groups in real time., Therapy on a regular basis, small group meetings taylored more to your problems that your Therapist can tell you about in your area. Certain groups at your church or religious organization, etc.

People can't keep taking advantage of you and taking from you if you don't let them. That's a choice you have to make.

Now, there are those of us who like to give and use our talents and skills to give our time to certain groups, i.e. Suicide Hotlines, teen mentoring programs. But we choose to do that and get just as much back from it that we put into it.

So you need to make up your mind whether your going to keep letting people take from you. You also need to decide if your going to seek out programs that can help you get stronger.

Take care,

yes we are singing from the same hymn sheet! I often feel quite invisible and my family were dreadfully cruel towards me. I had to reduce contact with them to the absolute minimum. (basically just funerals!) to protect myself and i won't go among them alone, i always have a 'safe' person with me. pagan is right can you try and be kind to yourself with a little pampering even if it is just your favourite bar of chocolate?
oldcp. too has a great suggestion in trying to get in touch with local therapy groups etc and also to avail of ds. I would be lost without my DS family. Sit hubby down and see if you can sort out the insurance issue, you can't go on with this hanging over you. take a xanax or something before the talk if you need to. baby steps. good luck with everything. hugs.

Thank you all for your kind words and advice. You all have kind hearts

I have my support groups. This one and dbsa. Hugs.

Enough is right now! WE are here for you and we care but I know you are crying out for your family and friends at home to hear your cries and to see your pain. As one of my quotes say, "It's better to walk alone than with a crowd going in the wrong direction." I don't believe you are truly alone, I just think others are so busy crying for themselves that they don't hear yours. I would like to leave you one more quote in hopes it helps. Also, have you joined the loneliness site? A wonderful group of people there too. Big extra hugs GB

1. That stress you've placed upon your shoulders is going to crush you. Get rid of it. You don't need to be perfect, you don't need to please everyone. Place that heavy burden on the ground. Throw it int the sea. Expel it from your being. You will be lighter in mind, body, and soul. Say no without explanation.

I am now crying alone because I'm 900 miles away from everyone in my family. I'm in a small town with women he slept with. My family are not good at listening but it was a comfort to be close.

There's a name for the syndrome where you help everyone around you as your own ship goes down in the sea....can't recall what it is right now! (ARGH MEMORY!!) I think MANY of us suffer from exhausting our emotional resources helping other people while we really need to focus inward on ourselves. Big hugs, sweetie.

My mother lives about 2000 miles away - it was a comfort when she lived closer, but I've had to learn to function (hard as that it sometimes) without her - I haven't really succeeded yet.

I love my family but in reality theyre not there even just to vent. Everyone needs to vent. Now while I'm going through this hard time all alone I feel like everyone is attacking me. I'm just not good enough for anyone