TC, I'm so sorry you're family is so dysfunctional and the pain that brings you. I imagine you might have been terrified to be face to face with your fathers rage. Big hugs to you for that.

I don't recall if you have your own space separate from them...an apartment. When you get on your feet, and you will, you'll find some supportive, loving friends.... Are you temping yet?

Warm wishes for the weekend x

My family has its dysfunctional trials, too. I'm so sorry you've had to endure so much garbage from both parents, not to mention how awful it has made (does make) you feel. (((((hugs))))

It's so terrible when the people we turn to the most (often our parents) are the ones that are the most toxic in our lives. My father did me the (dis) service of ending our relationship a long time ago (he has been diagnosed with bipolar, schizophrenia, depression & social anxiety). I'm no longer (and haven't been for a long time) invited to any of his family's social events or family functions. (my parents are divorced). My mother has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and anxiety issues but clings to me as if I'm some kind of a life-preserver. Ha.

You are not broke nor defeated. You ARE however dealing with extremely toxic people dear to your heart and you'll need to sever those ties or find a way to distance yourself mentally and perhaps physically from their behavior. So hard to do! I have forgotten if you're seeing a therapist or not. This would be a significant topic to discuss. And work through. And discuss. It is not easy. I'm sorry, TC. My heart is with you.

You need your space. I'm lucky I managed to get mine. Now that I am living on my own my Gran is more respectful towards me, also I am no longer sponging off her when I am in need of money.

Right fighting never lets anyone truly heal.... People that do this all the time really do take a toll on one... My father used to say "I may not always be right but I'm never wrong" sigh...

Good for you having some boundaries TC... I'm sorry that the dysfunction is so hurtful... What about finding a NAMI meeting in your area for some peer support and making some new connections?... Big hug..x

Like others said, can you look elsewhere for support and peers? I finally started reaching out in different groups in recent years and my quality of life has improved so so much.

Oh TC this on top of everything else? Yikes....

I think many have pointed out the wisdom and sanity of time and good boundaries....

Self care above all else hon! Set those boundaries and get some sanity....

((((Hugs)))) this will feel a lot better in 3-6 months....

Luckily I do have an apartment (for now). I see a therapist, whose mouth drops when I share this stuff with him. He says I should get connected with a church. I am going to do that. Maybe I will find some people who are decent there.....

I started temping Thursday. They threw me in with no training, so that has been a major source of stress. I just want to fall asleep and die

TC...as hard as it is I don't think you should involve yourself in their little games. It's only going to hurt you.
Concentrate on YOUR life and keep them at a distance.
I had to do that w/my family.

. You don't owe your parents anything, they are the ones that brought you into this world and chose to do whatever they chose to do for you. My family was very dysfunctional. I took care of my mother the last year of her life and although I loved her, I did not respect her or feel I owed her anything. Parents can cause a lot of guilt in their children because of their own dysfunctions. Don't let them drag you down with them. I am not saying to not love them, but that is all you owe them unless they give you a reason to feel more, in my personal opinion. Have you checked out the "Family Issues" site? It may be helpful for you. Hugs GB