all you can do is let yourself cry. you have had a terrible loss. after my brother died six years ago we all found ourselves crying when we heard a particular song, or on his birthday, anniversary and even the last day we met him. we still do this. don't feel bad about grieving. only time allows you to live with it, not that it makes anything easier but you do live with it. i am so sorry you had to live through this awful tragedy. thoughts are with you.

I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one that grieves after a few years. I thought there was something I could do to stop it after so long x

I can't imagine the pain of losing a child. My heart goes out to you.

Maybe you could find a way to honor her every year by volunteering at a local women's shelter. Or making a donation to groups that help children in need. Trying to honor and celebrate her can help shift the focus away from the loss and onto what you gained from your time together.

((hugs))

That's a great idea gemi, I might try and find out at our local womens hospital if they take on volunteers etc, they do a lot of work t here with tiny babies etc

I am so sorry for your loss.
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Maybe you could try listing all of your emotions and deal with them one at a time. That way it does not overwhelm you as much.

One step at a time sounds like a good idea, thank you x

Grief isn't something we shut off like a faucet. Sometimes we grieve our whole lives so don't feel that something is wrong with you. It might help to talk to a grief counselor if your grieving is causing you to spiral out of control. We can learn to manage our grief but that doesn't mean we stop grieving.

check out C.S Lewis's- A grief observed..if interested..

goes in waves, doesn't it? hugs, regina x

just keep crying Regina....keep letting those tears free, keep crying.......i am so sorry about the loss of your daughter...you are in my prayres
also, if you can, you could write your daughter a letter telling her how you feel and how terribly you miss her....and go to her grave and read it to her....you could do this on every birthday, and on the holidays...or just when your heart is aching like it is now.... when we pour our feelings out on paper, it helps us greive, and you could make your letter in a little book just for her and you.....and going to her grave and reading it can be the manisfestation, or the outward ritual, for your greiving...i don't know if this will help....but i am thinking of you Regina...love, maggie