You know;

1. Relationships are difficult for everyone
2. Everyone fears rejection.

Bipolars have additional challenges through either their "bad behaviour" or their apparent change in personality ("I thought you were a fun guy!").

We also have hpersensitivity to rejection. It's actually one of the symptoms in the textbooks.

So while I don't have any advice, you are not alone in your feelings or difficulties.

I think that relationships are challenging, just as a curiousfish said and I also think that everyone fears rejection. The best thing you can do for your relationship, in my opinion, is keep taking your meds and go to therapy. IF you feel like you are lacking in some coping skills that keep you from being so overly sensitive or help you keep things in perspective so that you can change that negative self-talk that keeps you spazzing out everytime he says he wants to talk. (Wow, did you get anything out of that sentence? I think I might be a little hypomanic today) Just try to relax and enjoy spending time with your boyfriend. Communication is a big key to relationships so if he just wants to talk, it may not be a big deal. I'm sure he will let you know if it is.

Thanks guys! :)

First of all, I didn't know that hypersensitivity to rejection was a symptom. OMG, that is explaining so much to me. Jasmine, he's got to be understanding of your needs, however, until he gets to be that way, when you're feeling super-sensitive it may be a good idea to just take some time away. Clear your head. Take a bubble bath and remind yourself that you are you,you are fine, everything is ok, and relax. (or try to at least) If he loves you, he loves you. If he doesn't, there's probably nothing you can do by now to make that happen. Now there are some behaviors that can make someone rethink their relationship with us...believe me I know first hand! The super-sensitive part..been there girl! Just try NOT to be that "girl" that guys don't want to be around....clingy, low self-esteem, always needing validation. If you feel yourself being that way, go somewhere else so he doesn't have to witness it....that's my only advice and I'm sure it's more wrong than right!

Thank you so much! I think your advice is very right, and yes I am sure that explains a lot for a lot of us, lol! I am feeling somewhat better, talking with you guys helps....:) XX

It really does help talking to people on here that understand what we go thru, not on a "textbook" level, but a "live it" level, ya know! Don't stress too much girl. The fact that he wants to "talk" means 1. There's adult converstation going on which is good. 2. Most guys (in my experience) when they're done, they're done. Talking doesn't sounds like done. Talking takes effort and men usually don't put effort into something "just because"...

Yeah, it really does help, and I know he would do anything for us! :) it is just so hard for me to trust!

GIRL RELATIONSHIPS ARE HARD AND IT DOESN'T MATTER IF YOU ARE BI-POLAR OR NORMAL. THE THING WE HAVE TO DO IS STAY OUT OF OUR HEADS SO MUCH AND STOP REPLAYING THOSE "WHAT IF" SCENERIOS. I FEAR REJECTION SO MUCH THAT I HAVE STAYED AWAY FROM ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS FOR RIGHT NOW AND CONCENTRATE ON ME. I AM A MEMBER OF NA (NARCOTICS ANNONYMOUS) AND BI-POLAR AND GIRL IF YOU WANT TO SEE SOME MESSED UP RELATIONSHIPS GO TO A 12 STEP PROGRAM. WE ARE ALL SITTING THERE WORKING ON OUR SELVES WITH OUR FEELINGS ON OUR SLEEVES DISSE3CTING AND RESDISSECTING RELATIONSHIPS. IT'S A SIGHT TO SEE SO I AVOID ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS ALTOGETHER BEC AUSE I AM IN ALL MEN SUCK MODE RIGHT NOW AND I'M SAYING ALL THIS TO TELL YOU YOU ARE NOT ALONE I CAN RELATE

Relationships are difficult in general but I completely understand when you say you experience paranoia when your boyfriend 'wants ot talk'. In general I sometimes think that people are constantly mad at me when they in fact are not. I am hypervigilant about it to a fault, perhaps it is an insecurity or perhaps it is just a by-product of Bipolar Illness. I have no clue. *HUG*