I lie when it suits me, but it's not good to manipulate situations or people. Then again, if we really want to alienate people we should be totally honest! Maybe you could cut back gradually since in the long run people don't trust a liar.

Being manipulative is a learned behavior and coping mechanism. Do you feel like you can't get what you want when you don't manipulate the situation? When did you start doing it? In my family manipulation runs rampant. Not only did I learn it from my family but I picked up the behavior myself because it was the only way to survive in my household growing up. I decided to change when I got together with my current boyfriend. It made me feel like crap and it just isn't a fair way to treat someone you love. I had to catch myself before or while doing it and then stop myself. It was hard and I of course have made some slips because it's not easy to stop once you start, but I did it and it was worth it to me. I admit to still being manipulative at times but only if I have someone elses best interests at heart and not my own.

Well right now things arent exactly going the way I want them to so I'm finding myself more prone to manipulating situations or make people feel sorry for me so I can get things out of them. When I have no control over somethings I find comfort in controlling others.

I always hate to say this....but "when I was your age" it seemed natural for me to lie as if it was some kind of protective mechanism. Mostly did it out of fear of how others would react. Eventually I realized, it didn't matter. If you don't feel you have done anything wrong, you should not feel like you have to lie. That is much easier for me to say now that I have worked through it.

The awesome thing is that you recognize it and obviously don't like it. It opens doors for you to work on it. Be proud of who you are and the choices you make and you will have nothing to lie about.

Now, if you are talking about the "white lie" (which, what is the difference, lol) like, I am sick so can't come to work when really you are going to the beach.....then, I can see it even for me.........however, dont get a stinkin sun burn while there.........."oops, fell asleep in the sun while getting fresh air?" xo

lol funny you mention it. I dont white lie as much as tell a real lie.

Thanks :D