Bipolar Disorder Support Group

Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.

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cbear 08/04/2008

A friend, that I met thru support group at hosp., is going thru yet ANOTHER break-up! I want to be a supportive friend but can't deal with her break-up shit. The relationship barely made it 5 months, she let him move in with her barely a month into the relationship!! She has questioned the situation from the beg but won't break-up with ppl...she rather wait till they do it! And no matter how bad it would get she wouldn't toss him out because then she'd be alone. So now we're on the break-up mode, she'll let this completely take over her life... get fired from work, want to kill herself... and you have to take it seriously because she's done it before and has a very good plan that she won't disclose, and no matter what you say she has a nasty come back. Here we go again!! So, my problem is, I really love her and our friendship but her break-ups are just too much. When she talks about killing herself it triggers me...yes I've told her that. If I turn my back on her in need I feel I'm not being a good friend.... But I'm exhausted with the same shit, different day!!!

Bluefly 08/04/2008

I know it is so hard dealing with this when it is such a trigger for you. I'm really sorry.
I go through the same thing with my sisters. They unload everything on me and all I want to do is help them and fix their lives. It triggers me bad.
My tdoc gave me the advice that I can't let their problems and issues become mine. I need to back away a little and not let their lives consume me. I felt if I wasn't there for them 24/7 I was not being a good friend. But, I realized it was getting in the way of my mental well being.
Now I have realized I do have to put myself first, I still have a problem feeling guilty. When I talk to them now, I let them vent about their husband and ex-husband, but I don't allow myself to get sucked into it and get angry about it. They never take my advice anyway.
I wish I had better advice for you when she says she is going to kill herself. I can't imagine how hard that must be for you. Does she have family you can talk to.
I hope I have helped in someway. Take care.

cbear 08/04/2008

Thanks for advice, and I fully intended to put space between us for a little bit. When she calls I won't ignore her, I'll probably text that I can't take on her problems today and that I still love her. As far as her family... a bunch of complete dumb asses!!

deleted_user 08/04/2008

I have a friend like this. she dates guys that are, to put it kindly, complete losers. Just guys that are very bad for her. Emotionaly abusive, drinkers, druggers. Then theyn inevetibely break up, she's upset and a mess. I love my friend, but I just get sick of listening to her justify why she continues to date these innapropriate men. Part of me just wants to tell her to cut the shit, stop dating morons, and maybe she'd be a little happier. Plus I don't feel like talking her off a cliff every time she breaks up with one of these guys. I wish she could see that she's worth better, for her own sanity, and mine!

cbear 08/04/2008

I can't begin to say how many times I've told her that she's worth better!! Not just the assholes she's dating but the behavior after it's over.

deleted_user 08/04/2008

I know my friend is a legitimely nice girl, a little meek, so theese assholes like feed off her goodness and she just doesn't get that she deserves a great guy. While a feel bad for her. It's just like enough already. Because I'ma very good friend. I always tell her how amazing she is and what a great person she is, it's just I can't seem to make her see it, and I just can't watch her make any more poor decisions when it comes to these guys.

cbear 08/04/2008

The break-up girl is so vulnerable to the guys that prey. She lives her life thinking that no person can be "bad". Murderers, terrorists etc... are poor souls that are suffering from mental health issues untreated. Wear a sign "PLEASE TAKE ADVANTAGE OF ME"!!

deleted_user 08/04/2008

My friend is so sweet that it's just like kinda the same situation that you're dealing with with yours. She's just so kind hearted that she comes off a little naive.. Now I'm pretty trusting. I still believe in the basic good in people, but she seriously thinks that all these guys are just nice and misunderstood. And it's like no he's a raging mysogynistic alcoholic, not a nice guy. Maybe not a good choice for dating

Bluefly 08/04/2008

Oh, my sister is married to one of those. It's getting worse and worse everyday. She will say she's done and then not follow through on anything. I hear the samething over and over.
My other sister is divorced and acting like, a don't no what, going home with random guys. I hear the stories again and again. They are a bunch of losers.
Both of them deserve so much better.

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