Wow sorry. That would make me tense too. Just watching a game like call of duty would make me tense. I'm just not much for computer or video games. I used to play world of warcraft but lost interest in that. I like computers but I prefer to program them. I like the old video games like Galga, now that was a fun game.
That reminded me of when my Dad used to say if your going to cry I'll really give you something to cry about. Hope your night gets better.
((Hugs))

My partner places COD and never freaks out. If my boyfriend would have said that to me, I would have freaked out you. I HATE COD, its so bloody violent. I understand why you got tense. I would have too.

he sounds like a loose cannon.

I would be worried if I were you. If he gets that worked up over a video game just imagine what he will do if something real happens.

Anger runs in his family. I don't mind violent games, it just a voilent game and the wrong personality type, doesn't mix.

The sentence "if you're going to freak out, I'll give you a reason to freak out".. freaks me out... it's nasty and abusive..
My dad used to say "if you're going to cry I'll give you something to cry for" and he sure did... please be careful of this kind of temper Fairy...xo

I hate the game too. It consumes my husband sometimes. he plays for hours all night long into the morning every single night just about.

Plus the language and attitude are less to be desired. But I look at it as his outlet. Some men use a punching bag, some men curse and yell at their tv.

It makes me nervous as well, but that is my insecurity because I'm used to an angry man being a scary man. My father used to say, "Stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about" and then beat us. THAT is abusive. It was a verbal threat and I hope your fiance never follows through.

I'm trying a "night off xbox" every week with my husband. That way I can get him to myself instead of sitting there while he gets upset at people on the internet.

I just excommunicated my own father for this sort of thing.

It's abuse and personally I will not tolerate it. I've cut all those sort of people out of my life finally and my life is peaceful now.

Do it for your mental health and well being. Anger management classes teach self control not more violence. Don't kid your self it's not an outlet, it actually causes them to become more angry instead of calming them down.

It incites more violence not lessening it. Something that provokes anger build their anger up until it gets out of hand. Some one with anger issues needs to level their anger off not play a video game that makes their anger and agression worse.

Not to say no one can play violent video games but most people just play with out getting angry over it. They know it's not real.

Please face reality and not make excuses. You don't want to be an object of abuse.

I think I agree its not an outlet. Its an angry-creator.

I don't have to imagine Doorknob. I already know. Lucky-- He changed somewhat.

A No xbox night would never work in my house, if I suggested it.

Every night is xbox night. LOL for him. I got my computer and most the day- I am too busy with my son to care.

Well, I agree that it can make the anger worse... it depends on the person and their state of mind. It used to make him livid foaming at the mouth punching himself mad. Now that he's been practicing kung fu and the Tao, he channels his anger much better. Now it's not so much the game he gets mad at... but the people he plays with. There is a lot of personal drama going on atm.

Also I think there should be a safety word... like something you could say to objectively let him know it's just time to walk away. And he CAN"T be allowed to get mad at you for saying it!

I'm thinking of trying that with my husband. I'm presenting the idea as a mutual thing. If I'm getting crazy about something he can tell me to reset or whatever and I have to just do it and stop fighting and take a break.. and I can't get mad or offended if he tells it to me.

I think we can all take things to extremes, and if we can trust our partners we can help each other redirect when needed. They key is trust... not abuse.

My ex had a similar reaction to COD. He was a Iraq veteran and took it waaaaay too seriously. I just ended up reading in the bedroom when he played it... for hours/days. But that's a crappy thing he said though and kind of scary. I hope things get better for you.

Wow, Punching himself- That sounds like my Fiance. Better him, then me, though I wish he just would just say hey, this isnt fun anymore- Its time to stop before he flips. When a game becomes annoying, I stop before I get mad. That simple. I just some ppl don't think that way. Lol
W/e right.
I tend to read alot in the bedroom too.

My fiance isnt the type of man that I can suggest anything too. Lol.

Fairy12~~

Did you read what you just wrote?

"My fiance isn't the type of man I can suggest anything to."

Oh honey, if you were my daughter, I'd say "Sweetheart ..... see what's there to be seen!"

I don't mean to butt into your business but you sound pretty powerless in your relationship and that's not a good foundation for marriage at all. Be careful, darling.

I am very well-aware of my situation and my own mother is the one that put me right back into when I finally got out of it over the summer. But it is what it is.


( Yeah, I finally was able to leave him with 1200 I saved and 580 of a paid check and my mother took the 1200 as a rent payment to move in, for her basement, and I am rambling. No one wants to hear this crap LOL hahhahahahaa,

I am happy now, thats what matter. Just wish this game didn't exist. Or he didn't play it every damn night.

It's something about those games, but my kids, 15 and 21, both yell at the games too!!!

My oldest son is the loudest and personally it makes me a nervous wreck too....I can't stand it and will tell them if that is how they are going to act it's going off!! I think video games are downright evil!!! And I mean that...they make people lazy, mean, lazy, lazy and lazy!!!!