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Bipolar and security

JennS
JennS
For a long time and especially now, I feel I don't have a little to no security. I fear for my future. I'm not sure if I will have anyone to help me if I can't take care of myself. Over my life I've been let down by a lot of people including family members. My mother was a severe alcholic so I couldn't count on her. I had to learn to take care of myself. I'm a generally independent person but since around the time I was diagnosed with bipolar, I found myself needing more help and not always getting it. I don't like having to depend on others. I do have family but I don't want to burden them with my problems. Also, I'm afraid if I ask for help they say, "no". I don't feel like I have a safety net or much of one.

I have a son who is turning 18 in July. He is almost a man but he still needs me. I want to be there for him and help him have a good life. I am very depressed and anxious lately. The holidays are the worst time of year for me.
PaganSpirit
PaganSpirit
The holidays are a tough time of year and I'm sorry your having a rough time. I also feel like I don't have much a safety net in life. Most everyone I know my age is putting money away for retirement or emergencies and I have nothing in savings to fall back on if needed. Like you, I do have family that would probably help but I hate feeling like a burden on them. I try to tell myself that they are doing it because they love me and its not being a burden. Take care.
JennS
JennS
thank you Spirit. Hugs.
bluemood82
bluemood82
I am so sorry you feel this way:( I know it sucks because I used to be very independent and now I fully depend on my husband and have since I was 25. My mental illness became severe at age 24 and I swear it has been nearly a decade ago and I am like "What happened?" I was supposed to go to college and not drop out 3 times and I was supposed to be a mom by now. I can barely be a wife even though my husband is wonderful. He is the only reason I go on. I may look and appear normal but the secret shame I live with of him being my caretaker tears me up. He tells me everyday he can't do life without me.
JennS
JennS
I'm glad you have such a nice husband. Hugs.
SensitiveHoboLady
SensitiveHoboLady
I hear you on this. I'm going through some big personal things trying with every fight I have in me to try and figure out some kind of plan for the future and I'm just stumped.

Hugs and good wishes. You are not alone.
JennS
JennS
Thank you. Hugs.
dobiedots
dobiedots
In this day and age, I don't think too many of us have any security anymore. Things can go wrong in a flash.
I try to keep myself strong mentally. And have some sort of plan for living.
gramybear
gramybear
I have been working really hard at taking everything one day at a time and not stressing myself so bad worrying about the future that we have no idea what the outcome may be. You are not alone in your fears and concerns. Hugs GB
spacekat
spacekat
I worry about the future all of the time and I just wish - wish among all wishes -that I didn't think such negative thoughts. I try to be positive but it's so hard. I guess I am lucky to have a hubby and son who understand me. Worry wart, I am.
MayB
MayB
I agree Jenn the holidays can be just plain difficult. Bipolar difficulties has eaten up my savings and my earning power as well.... Friends move, my family is all 3000 miles away so the safety net is thin...

Is there a RL support group in your area? I found many friends that way....
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