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Beating yourself up over things you did

juststartingout
juststartingout
Ok so I did something not very nice or good.... I came clean and I feel awful.... I can't stop beating myself up over it! Well for a little bit I tried to tell myself it's fine.... I am an adult and this other person hurt me so let's say we are even but I can't really believe that. So I'm back to feeling like garbage... To the point I feel physically ill. ... Does anyone else beat themselves up over things they can't change? Do you have an "acceptable" way of dealing with it??
GinaWonders
GinaWonders
Of course - obsession and self loathing? Major parts of depression and dysfunction : ) Welcome to my world!

I do work on this often though, because its not my first rodeo - I always obess about what I said, did or how horrible I am from 1986, not giving a girl a ride.... oy veh, I could fill books!

What I do - is replace the thoughts, instead of being "Horrible" I"m silly, or made a mistake. I do Something, or watch TV, anything to stop, I force myself. You can't tell thoughts to stop - the brain has to always have a thought, so I replace it!!!!

I also have lots of shit ready for times like this - I don't just pull things out of the air, I practice - so, clean my side of the street, and Live and let live - which the first part means GET A LIFE - besides beating myself up - for things, no one else is thinking about AT ALL!!!!

Oh, there is no such thing as even - so your hurting each other? Sounds toxic! Glad your here : ) I'm on a roll, please take what you like and leave the rest - this is what works for me : )
juststartingout
juststartingout
He thinks he hurt me before so he keeps calling us even now. He's been my main support for nearly 9 years... He keeps telling me to stop beating myself up.... I feel don't deserve him as a friend...
I like what you said!!! I am going to take your advice. :)
I think I just need to get it out to someone not involved also.
irishwriter
irishwriter
as,gina,said,we,are,our,own,best,critics.
sometimes,we,are,too,hard,on,ourselves..Give,yourself,a,bbreak,and,tell,the,'watcher,on,your,shoulder'to,'go,away',for,a,little,while,at,least,
and,take,a,well-earned,break,for,yourself,big,fat,hugs,to,you,.