I have pretty much decided I am not having children. BP exists within several generations of my family, and I could not bear the thought of having a child that might have the life that I have had.

My ex-fiance told me that I was pretty much too fucked up to be caring for animals let alone children.

No, I ache to have a baby.

I decided a few years ago that i would not have any kids ever. I am way too screwed up. I also can't handle kids. I hate them, I don't have any motherly instincts, i don't have any feelings towards kids at all. I hate them pretty much. I would be a terrible parent. I am also pretty sure that i would kill it too. I am trying to get on the list to get my tubes tied actually. Everyone on mum's and dad's side has some kind of mental illness and i have it the worst. I couldn't imagine what my kid would be like.

I never was quite sure if i ever wanted children; however when i was diagnosed with bipolar i knew i for certain I did not want children.

I have a son with BP and honestly his life is pretty good . He is studying hard and is also a paramedic. I have no regrets

I do not want kids of my own either. Partly down to having bipolar, but mostly as it has never been something ive craved 4 in my life. Id much rather look after my friends kids once in awhile x

I never wanted kids even before my dx.

First off Christa your ex-fiance is so full of shit!!! But that is why he is your ex because you deserve better then to spend your life with him..
(((((HUGS))))

As far as having children I knew at a young age that I would have children, I grew up in such a abusive family I am afraid that I would pass those bad genes on.

I am also a very selfish person and have a hard enough time with my own life and in no way able to raise a child.

I have a son and would love to have another baby. I did think long and hard about it wondering if my dx would affect my capability to be a mother or whether I would pass on bp. I think it's a very personal choice, and I would not judge anyone on their decision.
So far my son doesn't show any signs of bp and even though he has some problems of his own he's quite well rounded.

Mine are both grown now and both beepers - still no regrets as they are fantastic and for the most part I enjoy the hell out of them and love them(all the time) unconditionally)

l would love to have children

I still wonder if I made the right decision not to have children. I have been regretting it a lot lately that I have no children and basically have nothing to show for my life. Although I was not officially diagnosed with BP until a few year sgao, I always knew something was wrong and that I was too screwed up to take care of a child. There was a lot of BP and depression in my family so I did not want to pass that on to a child. However, as I said I now regret that decision. But it's too late now, I am too old to have children and too fucked up to ever adopt.

I would NEVER have kids, ever. The hell i've been through with this life is not even a life worth living, but here I am because my mom (depression, anxiety) and dad (bipolar in family, general angry bitch), decided let's make a family! Who cares what might happen when you cross bipolar blood line with depression!?

Worst mistake they ever made. Now they have a son whose head so screwed up he can't work and is on disability. Then, they have the nerve to bitch me out for not having a job (dad) and drinking (dad, mom).

My sister somehow hasn't shared as awful a fate, but she's an unpleasant bitch to me every time I see her - dramatic attitude always.

So, yea. Never would I have kids.

i've never had the urge or need to be pregnant. but i have in the past wanted to be a mother. with the turns that my life and health have taken, i am still grieving at the realization that i won't ever be a mom. it brings me much sadness. but i know it is for the best. i would not be able to handle it. i enjoy my bf's kids whenever i get the opportunity. i have great nephews. (it's not the same though) sometimes i imagine myself older and well, fostering children. gotta hold onto something. i think adoption is a great way to go if you are well enough to parent, and just don't want to pass on the genetics.

I don't know if it was luck of the draw of not but I had my kids and then got sick. I went into post partum depression and it turned into bi-polar something fierce. I raised my siblings, then my ex-husbands kids before I had my own, so I have about six kids that I can take credit for as mine. I wouldn't change a second of it. They have been such a blessing and they help to keep me stable. When I am low and feel like lashing out in anger, my love for them helps me keep myself in check. I will hide in my room before hurting them and it works. I have taught them to be very self sufficient and independent. They are older now and my family helps me with them when I need to go into the hospital and such.
I wouldn't trade them for anything. I am also teaching them the coping skills that I have been learning to deal with my bi-polar disorder. By taking a pro-active role in managing my disability, I am teaching them tools to deal with the possibility if they should ever get it. So far they aren't showing any signs. Lord willing this is not something they will ever have to deal with in their lives.