Try and take it easy. New jobs always give me anxiety. I am currently waiting to hear from the new boss this week. I know what you mean about fear of talking inappropriately or something. I have that fear too. Of losing control.

Just try and meditate. Try and remain loose, talk but maybe dont talk about everything right away. Listening is sometimes better than talking :-) I do have that fear of losing control in public though. So I can feel ya.

Good luck. It's a new start!

Oftentimes we conjure up fears in our minds when in reality it will be much different-- best approach is to listen give short replies take notes--- trust you will be ok--- if you have anti anxiety med take as needed--- (hugs)) polar

TC40,

2 weeks is not a long time to be off benzo's, so you probably have some wd issues still happening, you need to give yourself time to let your system completely adjust to not needing those chemicals. Depending on how long/often you took them, benzo's can take 4-6 weeks for your body/brain to fully adjust and reset without them.

The "positive thoughts" thing that people tend to say...it does help. Using deep breathing exercises in the morning, before you get dressed, maybe before you get out of bed, add some relaxation exercises with an inner self message of "I am good at my job, I'll be fine, I'll only worry about what I can control"...starting your day out peacefully with a "calming routine" can be just as beneficial for the anxiety as ending your day peacefully is to sleeping well.

"Put yourself in a calm, positive place" sounds a helluva lot easier than actually doing, but if you work on it and give yourself that starting point in the morning, it can help.

Take care,

I have a phrase I use sometimes to help calm me down. I borrowed it from a good friend. “It’s not the end of the world...till it’s the end of the world.” You likely are in withdrawal from coming off the benzos. And with the circumstantial changes in your life, it’s no wonder you’re feeling it. Have you considered a beta-blocker to help with the anxiety? Especially until you adjust. Completely safe med. No fear of dependence. I take that prn for anxiety and it often does the trick. It chills you ever so slightly. I hear people take it before public speaking to calm themselves. Just a thought. Ask your pdoc. In the meantime, sending hugs. I know it’s hard. You are not alone in feeling this way. xo

Did your pdoc rx this offlabel? I have been taking Gabapentin but it doesn’t do a whole lot.

Propranolol is the one I take. Not sure if it’s off label. But it does help me. Not sure on the dosage. Can check for you if you want.

I, too, lost many jobs because of my BP and my anxiety was awful. It is normal to feel this way. Just try to take it one day at a time. Coming off Benzos will cause extreme anxiety, so that could be attributing to your problems. Good luck. ((((hugs))))

Tc, I have spent countless hours in therapy working on managing my ‘work’ and REGAINING CONFIDENCE in myself after embarrassing episodes earlier on in my career.

It’s important to reframe thoughts into positive ones, into ‘can do’ mentalities and not retreat into thinking about prior situations, otherwise these feelings will keep repeating themselves and manifest all over again.

What are your strongest skills? What are you best at and most efficient? Also what are the most challenging aspects at the job, and can you be real about that when the time comes with a manager and improve upon those skills? For me, it helps to break down the big overwhelming thoughts into smaller components to reflect on. Make a list and remember no human being is good at everything....don’t be so hard on yourself and focus on the strengths you do have.

Keep going!

I just wanted to give you a big hug of peace and calm sweetie..... xo

Thank you all.

hey daisi if you are psychic how come you didn't know I'd find you in minutes and report you. I was thinking of removing your bullshit spam reply but that will happen soon when your account is banned.

Don't come back

ROFLMAO...really...now we have psychics....

Starting a new job is very nerve wracking for most people. Try to take it one moment at a time. Hugs!

https://www.therapistaid.com/worksheets/cognitive-distortions.pdf

I see a few of them you are doing in your post. I’m a big catasteophizer too. And fortune telling

Anyway, identifying the distorted thoughts and negating them with a positive balanced thought can go a long way. I’ve been taught the cognitive distortions so many times, they are ingrained in my mind.