Hmmm , Sorry this does sound kind of challenging .
I don't know about asexual .
I'm married ,But I do have a hard time connecting and feeling emotions.
Intimacy is not my favorite thing.
Good luck . I hope you find the answers you are looking for.

Maybe you are just like that dude sheldon on big bang theory and his girlfriend I think her name is Amy. They are just highly intelligent people and see relationships as one for just reproducing and look at sex and that kind of thing in a more practical way than spontaneous. Some people are just not affectionate and other people like to mawl each others face off and are highly passionate people.

I wouldn't start categorizing yourself so fast here....

Talk to your general doctor, get some tests done, and if all else fails, it might just be meds!!!!

I know in the past I have felt like I was incapable of loving, your young, you never know what your future might bring!

Keep your eyes and heart open just in case....

Being asexual isn't common -- but it's not unheard of.

Have you talked to the doctor who treated your hormonal imbalance if that can be an effect of it? I'd start there if I were you. A hormonal imbalance could definitely cause a total lack of sexual desire.

It IS a possibility that you just haven't found the right person. I have heard of people saying that they didn't care a fig about 'romance' on any level until they met that special someone, and then everything changed. But that's pretty rare, too.

There may be something 'wrong' (different) with your biochemical makeup, but that doesn't mean there's something wrong with you as a person, just because you are the way you are.

This is getting really personal, but I think it's worth mentioning here that if you never masturbate, that would probably point to a physical cause. (Assuming you're not abstaining for other reasons.)

I would definitely start by investigating it from physical angle, first.
That would include ruling out any disorders that might be responsible for it, like Asperger's/Autism.
That sometimes makes for a lack of sex drive and when you're very high-functioning, it doesn't always get diagnosed even though it's there.

If you are truly just one of those rare birds who is naturally asexual, I wouldn't feel bad about that. Not everyone is meant to be with someone. They may be in the minority but there's plenty of people who prefer to live alone.

The only thing that makes this a big problem is the fact that you want to have children.

And even that can be done by artificial insemination, as long as raising a child on your own is acceptable to you and you can provide for all your child's needs.

It's kind of bothersome to be different than the vast majority of people, but it doesn't mean there's something wrong with you as a person.
Try to think of it as 'different' rather than 'wrong'!!! Or maybe 'unusual' is an apt way to put it, too!!!

Good luck!!!! Whatever the answer is, I hope that you will be at peace with it!!! (((((Hugs)))))

Our society has sexualized every aspect of our lives.

Kids have sex at a very early age , in many cases.

Most women do not experience orgasm until the age of 19 or so.

So really , you are not so far behind in your responsive feelings.

As other people have mentioned, see a Dr, have your hormone levels checked, it might be a simple solution, especially if you are feeling like you want to have some kind of relationship with another person.

And yes, asexual isn't common, but it does happen.

if you want children , but not be in a sexual relationship, well, there are options for that too.

do think you might want to ask your hormone doc about it

Are you depressed? (lack of pleasure in other areas also therefore?)

Could be you are a late bloomer though. x

You are who you are. I know at your age your probably still trying to fit in some-where and hell are we all a sex obsessed society. Looks like that's all we seem to do now-a-days. You are totally normal. Embrace who you are and learn to feel good about yourself and despite all that, just look at all the sexual diseases you do not have to worry about getting. People try to tell me i'm not normal because I don't like having close friends, but hey, it takes all sorts of people to make this world and who is to say what is normal.

Since when can you get STD's from crushes on people MadameX?

I think you are only 21 and have plenty of time to decide what and who you want to be in this life. mabey you should take this time to get
((Hugs))

Twenty one is awfully young to be writing off the future of sexuality. I bet it is the hormones and you will be just fine. If not, you could like someone said before have artificial insemination or adopt.

I don't think there is anything wrong with you. Your state of mind certainly will preserve your health and keep you from getting any sexually transmitted diseases. If you ever get curious and look around this website at other forums like the STD or STI forums, you will thank your lucky stars that you have no compunction to fuck yourself up with other people's fluids, viruses, bacteria, and germs. You don't even have to have sex to have children. Adoption is always a very viable option for those who would make good parents. The bottom line is, you are perfectly fine and many people wish that they could be as "untainted" as you. Never compare yourself to other people. That will lead you into making bad choices every time! Trust yourself and how you feel and learn to be happy as you are.

You're only 21. Not saying you're not asexual - maybe you are, but there could also be physical causes. Check them out, but also see if identifying as asexual feels right to you. If it does, then you probably are - you're the only one who'd really know.

I felt just like you for many years. It wasn't until I was in my 30's and after a hysterectomy did I ever feel true sexual desire. Well, I did feel some in my late 20's, but that was only after another surgery to remove endometriosis. It wasn't until the cystic ovary was removed did I really start to feel it.

You mentioned hormonal imbalance. I had that because of the endometriosis and the ovary. I don't know the cause of yours, but I bet if you can get treatment for it your drive will appear. Please talk more with your doctor about this. There are many treatment options and many of them won't leave you unable to still have children like my hysterectomy did. (I already had my children by then).

I also agree with what others say, our society really goes overboard with sexualizing everything. Not everyone are the horny-toads tv makes us all out to be. And I still wouldn't feel comfortable having sex with someone I wasn't very close to. I'm a pretty shy person and so far, the only way I've been able to feel comfortable and achieve orgasm is by myself. None of my partners ever made me feel comfortable enough (probably because it turned out they were abusive, and I was picking up red flags).

So, talk to your doctor more, seek treatment, don't rush yourself, and listen to your body... sometimes we don't feel the desire for a reason (like with my abusive partners). Also, I needed therapy because of the abuse and some childhood trauma that put a kink in my sexuality.

(((hugs)))

The first time I had sex was to get it over wtih, Intamacy doesn't come easy to me even though I havebeen married for 22 years now. I wish you luck because it is such a battle mentaly more so than physically. I have not found an easy answer.

Could it be the meds?