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apologies

beccs41
beccs41
has anyone ever apologized to people for your behavior or the way you treated them when you were manic. i lost alot of friends and did some shitty things during my last severe episode. has anyone ever done this? does it help? im feeling very apologetic today
Nester4U
Nester4U
I have went back and apologized for things that I later remembered I had done. There was one friend that said he forgave me but didn't want to continue to have a friendship with me. I guess I just freaked him out too much.It still felt good to sweep off my part of the street. To try and make amends. I've had others who have totally forgave me for things understanding that I was sick and would never do these things otherwise.

Fallouts are hard to deal with but I feel if I've done everything I can to correct a wrong it helps me move on. HUGS!
tommymott
tommymott
By all means apologize. It'll do you a lot of good and if it saves a relationship all the better. I still get reminded by one friend about my behavior 38 years ago.
heretic
heretic
I feel so much regret over so many things I have done. Not able to apologize because the people involved won't speak to me anymore and I don't blame them.
Eulenspiegel
Eulenspiegel
Of course!!!
EVERYONE should apologize when they've done something they should apologize for!!!

I'm not exactly sure what you mean by 'does it help?'.

It doesn't always mean that you will be forgiven.
(But sometimes you will be.)

All I know is that when I've done something I should apologize for, I feel HORRIBLE until I do so!!!!

(And depending on the situation, don't always feel 'wonderful' even after I do. But I feel better.)

Along with apologizing, one should always make amends as well, if possible.
Or so says my conscience.

Another thing, when it comes to apologizing, is it makes a much bigger and better impact if you don't make excuses for why you fucked up.

Since you're feeling apologetic, it's quite likely you will feel better once you follow through on it!!!

I hope so, anyway!!!
Good luck!!!

(((((Hugs)))))
beccs41
beccs41
I wrote apologies to 2 people, both are people i no longer speak to but was once really close with. one person i havent seen in two years and the other and i say hi in passing at school but are no longer friends. the one i havent seen in two years is also bipolar although i didnt know i was when i was out of control and did horrible things to her when i wrote her apology i told her that i was diagnosed a year ago. she was understanding and forgave me right away the other person didnt answer me.
i felt better doing it even though it took me 2 years to do so.

i wish the other one would have answered me but im sure she probably doesnt really understand.