Do you have triggers for the negative emotions that are ruling your world? If you do then maybe figure out what they are and try to avoid them or eliminate them from your life. That helped with some of my anxiety. Cut out certain things and certain people. With my fear, I just stuck with the mindset, If I've done all I can do in a situation then f- it. No point in being fearful or stressed about things that are out of my hands. Do all you can, then wait and see what happens. Insecurity, unfortunately I can't help with. I still struggle with this. I'm sorry if this didn't help much and I hope you feel better.

my triggers are related to anything that involves dealing with my ex. Which is almost daily. We share a child together and I have full custody.

Thank you DivineLette Just being about to talk about it is help. And I hope that I can possibly help with your worries as well.

you are not alone, many of us are here to help or at least to listen and support!

Your husband has bipolar. You used to love him. I read that u struggled with him and are happy to be moving on with a new life. Since you had beautiful children with him I guess you can not write his problems off completely. I think the best way to deal with the frustrations of his illness is to find compassion within u.

You can feel so lucky to be able to start new without his bipolar and at the same time be compassionate towards him knowing the pain he must be in not being able to just leave it.

As a woman with bipolar, that is divorced because of the illness (I was not given the correct diagnosis until after my divorce so I never had a chance) I see my ex starting over with his new stable partner. He is happy. He deserves that. I'm happy for him but it is devastatingly painful to know that I can't start over from my bipolar. I miss him terribly and i miss my family. It is very painful, especially knowing that my illness (which I didn't choose as ur ex didn't choose it) caused this.

No matter how your ex-husband may hurt or frustrate u, do u have it inside u to feel compassion for him? U r the non-bipolar one. U have a beautiful stable life ahead of you. Isn't that enough? Find compassion and it will give u patience, understanding and help u during the difficult times.

As bipolar has a genetic factor this is a compassion u may need for one of your children someday. It is something you would ask of your child's ex if his or her spouse were "happily divorced" from your child due to your child's bipolar. Do you understand that?

I am in no way saying your ex is easy, dealing with bipolar is easy or fair. But I am saying that tossing the word "happily divorced" out in ur description of ur relationship with ur ex shows how u feel. It sounds like u have taken out the trash happily. Since u r happy then u can be compassionate.

Set your limits, refuse to engage in things that are clearly unrealistic or unhealthy, encourage a healthy relationship between he and the children when he is stable, protect them when he is not and be thankful that he gave u children and u r happy.