That is a very real possibility. It gets more comfortable feeling bad than to try to push ourselves to feel better.

I haven't liked or agreed with some things I've heard or been told or has been suggested in therapy. I think it takes time to get to know someone in a therapeutic setting.

I was once told I needed to 'let go of my depression' and I couldn't handle hearing that. They didn't know what I had been through. But many years later, I developed tools to process and work through that depression.

Stay strong and know that others understand how hard the big journey is. (((Hugs)))

My horror story is that the negative feelings and chaos were the most stable aspect of my life. Does it qualify as an addiction if it is the only way you know how to be? Learning to trust love and happiness was no small feat for me. Trust is still more than I can achieve some days. Aren't things like love, happiness and success just road maps to future heartache?

I think the therapist making that statement about you is not very compassionate.... people do not want to feel bad and to grow accustomed to it is just crazy.. depression is real and you can not just will your self out of it... sometimes it takes medications and an understanding therapist to help cope... you should not feel guilty.. you have done nothing wrong.... its good you are being transferred... ((hugs)) polar

How does one "let go" of depression? How many times are we told to "shake it off" like is a bug on our shirts?!

If i may. I usually just confide in someone close to me like family when I'm depressed but I get told to shake it off too it's not just something that you can get rid of like that. Having someone who understands is helpful. But that's hard to come across.

See I never confide in my family about my depression. I've inly ever talked to my therapist. Now I'm in the beginnings of finding a new therapist and in our first real session this lady pulls that crap on me. So I'm Definitly not seeing her again

Sorry to hear that :( is ther no one you can seek comfort in?

Tyraelsmiles: no there is no one else who I can confide in. Only here and really not even because there are so few people left here

I've noticed the lack of people not sure what ti think of it here. But I usually run to my guy for help not sure if that applies to you at all. Good luck on finding a new doc though.

I seem the crap in my head to be too intense to share with anyone. I really miss my old therapist. I could tell her anything. Now I feel very abandoned. I never built any bridges to burn. It sucks

Being addicted to being depressed, or feeling like shit, sounds so "bipolar" - you know? Sounds like some horrible thing, making us worse, etc etc - but, um, it's probably another part of human nature....like any negativity, usually.

My sister calls me up (I live in another state now) about once a week, and she Always has bad stories to tell me about family, or neighbors...her FB posts that she shares are Always about crime, or animal cruelty, etc etc. Oh, I *know* about the bad things that happen, but could she be "addicted to negatives"? Does she feel like she "has" to be miserable about all the stuff? (You know what they say...misery loves company).

It's not even negative people! My OTHER sister (whom I have long dubbed "MaryPoppinsPollyannaMotherTheresa") always has a Song to sing me! And tells me about the 50 INCREDIBLE things she has gotten done before lunchtime! And how MANY people in the world just invented the best things since the light bulb!! ....Um, I Love hearing positive stories and Love the fact that she does so well, but I am Exhausted when we get off the phone, too. Just like with the first sister. Is she so addicted to happiness that it's like a sugar high?

Can we be gossip junkies, 'bad mood' junkies, 'happy dance' junkies....is it part of our Nature to just go all obsessive in one direction or another? And if so, how to we find a Balance so we won't be all one-sided?

I wonder if your therapist has good Suggestions to go along with her ideas? :?

That really stinks kisses. :( Not sure y you don't have her anymore but I'll pray for you. I totally understand that though if I let my bf in my head I'm scared he would leave me.

I don't think I worded my statement correctly. It's not about "letting depression go". That's an impossibility. The thing that we as beepers tend to do is to get comfortable in our depression, to get used to it. And that makes it that much harder to try to work our way out of it. If all we know is unhappiness how can we possibly overcome it? I'm going through it right now and I have to force myself to actually get out of the house for a few hours. It's hard. It's so much easier to lay in bed and feel bad. But I'll never get better if I don't push myself. Of course the depression will not go away overnight, but there are steps we can take to slowly pull ourselves out of it.