Bipolar Disorder Support Group

Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.

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Accusations and Mistrust

1PhoenixRising1
1PhoenixRising1
Whenever I am feeling low I begin to be very accusatory and mistrusting toward my husband. Paranoid even of his behavior, and I will obsess about it and that usually triggers a rage or crying screaming depressed/mixed episode all because my self esteem is so low because of past experiences.

My husband is a great guy and he takes my crap when he doesn't deserve it, I see that I'm seeing things the way I do wrong. I expect everyone to treat me like crap so I go looking for it.

What are some ways that I can stop these thoughts (besides taking my meds) and keep from spiralling out of control?
deleted_user
deleted_user
My dear husband has pointed this fact out to me as well. That when I feel like crap/or have a crappy attitude I want to be treated like crap and may go looking for it. He made a great point that was the way I was treated as a child...for me it stems from my PTSD. He is very insightful. I have only my way of relieving it....taking the time to really think of the positive things I am and do as a person. It is really hard to have a "mind over matter" way of thinking and doing. I just can say I relate. I am thankful I have an understand partner/spouse. ~hugs to you :)
tommymott
tommymott
I think that after meds talking to a counselor or therapist would be the best way to deal with these feelings.
sepi
sepi
I agree with tommymott. In the meantime, I do breathing exercises and keep self help books at hand. One in particular that is very helpful for me is "How to be an adult".
Hope you feel better.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Therapy can help I believe.. being assertive as opposed to passive aggressive or aggressive.. this is a lot behavior and in some instances personality..
changing takes a lot of work and effort.. we have to bite our tongues sometimes.. once something is said it's out there and can never be taken back..x
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