Okay, I am getting the vibe that "you really dont want to go", lol.

Seriosly, Hanna, you know yourself best. For me, there are times I dont want to go but if I keep telling myself that, I just get more anxious. If I start thinking the opposite way and looking at all the positive possibilities, I start feeling more that way and feel much better by doing the very thing I thought I didnt want to do.

It just depends on where I am emotionally. If I am depressed to the point of being bed ridden, the most I can move is to my front porch for fresh air. If I feel better than that but just like isolating, I pretty much force myself to do the thing I am contemplating and almost always feel better for doing it.

If you really dont like the guy, then exit the whole lunch thing, but if you like him he may just help you out of your funk. You can always tell him at the start that you are not feeling well (headache or something) but did not want to disappoint him and that you may have to leave the "get together" early. There is always an escape route, just plan ahead for it. xo

What Shelly said. Good luck (Hug).

It isn't just about you. You made a date/appointment with this guy. If you blow him off it'll probably be the last time you ever have a date with him because-SURPRISE!-other people have feelings too and large numbers of people will hear about it.
Yes, it's your choice, but choose wisely!

I agree with the others. Go out with him and see how it goes, but have the "escape plan" in place. You may end up having a good time. I once had a lunch date with a guy I had just met and I was thinking of not going, but I forced myself to go and what do you know, we have now been married for about 20 years, so you just never know.

i agree with everyone else, go ahead and go, you might have fun, but have an 'escape plan" in place that way you can get out of it gracefully if you need to
hugs
Andrea

He just texted me and cancelled on me. I feel so much better.

Thanks everyone for your help.