Yeah, money issues are one of the top things couples fight about.
I figure as long as both parties contribute equally to household expenses, then what ever each has left over they get to spend on themselves - you spend your money on docs, meds, whatever you need - and he spends his extra cash on whatever he wants. Whoever makes more gets more, but that's life.

He shouldnt be calling you anything like that. It isnt your fault you are dealing with this. You didnt ask for it and its not like its any walk in the park for you either. If he were sick with any illness, physical or mental, he would want you to be supportive too. Maybe put in that context : if this was a physical illness like lukemia or diabetes he would not be angry at you about it. This isnt any different.

Here that's the prob I don't work...I can't my mind is so mumbo jumbo I can't do it...I've tried and screwed up big time on the job... So its just his income... Idk what to do... And twllite thanks for the support I'm tryn so hard but not getn anywhere yet I'm just sick at my stomache!

I'ts not your fault you need those meds. He shouldn't be saying things like that. I'm sorry he did :(

Some people are able to work, some are not. For better or worse doesn't seem like it has any meaning to people anymore. Don't let him make you feel like it's your fault.

I am not sure how it all works in the U.S. but could you see about applying for disability?

*hugs*

How about patient assistance programs for the meds. Then there would be one less thing to fight over.

he makes 3000 a month no assistance for me! i have applied for disability but havnt got a ans yet...which im sure will b no

((( hugs)))

My bet is it was in the heat of the moment and those things slipped out. It's certainly not fair of him to blame these things on you, and I'm sure he knows that. He's probably simply frustrated because one of his "needs" isn't being met, and that issue must have boiled over for a moment. When this kind of thing happens, it's easy to not look at things reasonably and your priorities/sense of propriety tend to get out of whack.

I don't have any advice for the financial situation, but if you let things cool down and take some time for him(and you I suppose) to simply reflect, these problems will seem a little more manageable and hopefully you can start working things out.

My husband is the exact same way, Crystal. I'd say to try and have a high tolerance for b.s. and also try neogtiating skills. When the husband is in charge of finances, it can feel like a steel trap and like you are living in a dictatorship.

I too am having some major financial problems exacerbated by expensive problems.

I no longer have medical insurance and am screwing myself up bigtime. I have had insurance for most of my life and I don't think I know how to handle life without insurance.

We just received the cost of lab testing my wife's blood.

I'm the major breadwinner in my family and my husband trys to pull that crap on me too so it doesn't really matter who brings home the bacon, they'll still complain.

He also thinks his addiction to cigarettes is as valid as my need for meds. Bunch of BS if you ask me.

My suggestion is to call him on it, but then again, that hasn't really gotten me anywhere. At least I don't feel like a coward for not standing up for myself though which is what I'd feel like if I didn't say anything.

Good luck to you. Sorry for your situation.

thanks guys...i know its hard on him...he doesnt understand at all...right now im just putting one foot infront of the other...doin all i can

he loves you..this will blow over..but he should never call you that ever!! even if you didnt take meds,,i would leave my wife a few days said that to me..its bad enough what we go threw everyday,,then have this threw in our faces..TO ME I BE REAL WANTING TO FIGHTING WOARDS..i know...