fake your death

Is there something not right or toxic about these friendships?.. You wrote that you considered them good friends??
If you really want to end the friendships don't make contact they'll soon get the message if friendship isn't reciprocated..

Tell them the truth?

If you dont fake your death, which I think would be the cool thing to do, dont take SunClouds advice on this... I'd rather be told that something about me is so troubling to you that you want to end a friendship rather than just be ignored... So I'm going to go with Cammiecat's idea... I think that if you are forced to tell the truth maybe you will see that you, yourself might be partially responsible for toxicity. Life is a bitch when you are forced to look at it objectively.

Before going and ending the friendships ask yourself and be honest if you are only ending the friendships due to you being "stable". Myself I would be beyond pissed if someone did that to me especially since you said they were good friends . . . wtf? you get stable and abandon everyone that stood by you

I don't know about your relationships, but I've found that my own relationships that were actually not so healthy after all suffered demise when I got well. They fed of my illness. When I was no longer desperate and vulnerable, I wasnt ideal any more. They couldn't use me anymore. Others just wanted company in their own misery.

I am making new friends now, mostly at church. I have another friend that I suspect is bipolar, and we endure each other's weeks of not talking because of isolation or depression and don't hold it against the other. I think this works because we "get" each other, and we both aren't looking for pity parties or negativity... we both sincerely are making efforts for stability and self improvement. There is a good balance of no neediness yet no forgetting about the other completely because of periods of lack of contact.

I would give it some time with the old friends, no need in completely cutting them off since they are only long-distance... but work on making some new friends in the meantime.

If you don't feel the need to contact t hem then don't.You'll feel that you've done a right or wrong thing, depending on their responses.

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I have been changing and have become more stable these past 10 years or so........I have lost some friends but have gained some new friends too........

Fake THEIR deaths.

I have a few people that were good friends that I don't talk to anymore. It's not that I don't still care for them, just that I think we're in 2 completely different worlds.

I also have periods of time that I just don't feel like talking to people, and I let my good friends know that. The ones that are willing to accept that you just don't feel like talking all of the time are really good friends.

Thanks everybody. I am trying to get my life together. In with the new out with the bad.

It sounds like you feel comfortable with how you're going to handle it, which makes it almost certainly the right thing to do!!!

But I'll throw in my 2 cents anyway!! (That's about what my opinion is worth!!)

Well, Joan Jett's song goes, 'You've got nothing to lose, you don't lose when you lose fake friends'.

If you're sure they're not real friends, it's probably best to let them go, even if it does mean having 'just' your family!! And family can be such a wonderful thing to have!!

If you feel that they most likely ARE friends, but that you just aren't in the right emotional state to have a lot or even a little contact with them right now, perhaps let them know that.
You don't have to give a long, upsetting explanation.

Just let them know that you value their friendship and when you are well, you will let them know.

Good luck with what you do!!!!
I hope you end up happier than you are right now!!!!

(((((Hugs)))))