I have been working on getting better for quite a while now and I still have a hard time, so this might not work remotely close to immediately. I can't guarantee it will work for her at all. It all works different for different people.

Something like a worry stone works well for me. When I am beginning to feel overwhelmed, I take out my rock and rub my thumb over it. I concentrate only on how the rock feels and the how I am rubbing it. It distracts me for enough time that my feelings subside and I can focus on getting back on task.

It doesn't have to be a stone. It could be twirling a piece of hair or playing with a piece of jewelry. Just something that can be focused on.

Also for at home, when she is feeling upset, you could let her do something she likes to do. Not necessarily all day, but just to let her calm down and enjoy something. Even better, do something that requires thought, exercise, or both. The thought continually takes the mind of the thoughts that are causing the emotions, and the exercise helps get some of those bad chemicals that make you feel bad and increase dopamine which creates the feeling of happiness.

These are what has worked for me. I hope they help. I would also post on a the main Bipolar board or if you don't get the answers you want, post again.

i find also a distraction helps. music helps me alot. for sad emotions support is helpful. holding her telling her you care. for anger let her cool off for a while. i find that orders don't help. one of the best things when shes mad is to NOT yell back. if you get angry things will escalate. - get worse and worse-. if she likes music maybe her having a mp3 player can help. don't base a reward system on emotions that will seem horrible to her. because she CANT help it. she really has no control of it. walking for me also helps. repetitive songs, actions, etc. help me. dance also really helps me.. getting into the song get rid of negative energy.

hope this helps -tab