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I havent written for awhile because of certain things but I have noticed lately that some friends of Frank are in seattle now and for some strange reason...they are giving advice! I have always read advice columns and when I was 15 I had a letter in Ann Landers and such and I have tried to be nice and understanding..but when Frank died I noticed that people tend to move away and she hasnt spoken to me since Frank passed away for reasons known to her and frankly like Rhett Butler said in Gone With The Wind..frankly my dear I dont give a damn..now people are coming out of the woodworks and I cant see anyone right now...I am having a crisis with my housing and it has been months since I have had a lease...but people are calling me and trying to cheer me up..but where were they on the 1st of August 2004 when I received the call that Frank died? They were nowhere to be found here and now some of them are retired and they are bored..(boo-hoo) but now I am going thru so much and theres noone in seattle that I can see because the crisis centers here are swamped and there is a 7 month wait...so I am trying this Possibilty Thinking that Robert Schuller talks about.I am also trying to do the Mantra and I try to sing one song a day...I am catching up on my reading and have joined 3 book clubs and am doing this and that because once a person is in rehab..it upsets the whole house and I refuse to not to be on call for Daily Strength..I love all of you people here and thanks to all of you..Tuffy will be dead for one month tomorrow and I still miss her...it is going to snow in seattle so I have to come home early.
Hope things start getting easier for you.
Good Luck,
Linda
I'm sorry you're going through this right now...and I understand in many ways. I'm going through alot of guilt blaming myself for my mother's final arrangements. I was in charge of it all. There were Aides and a friend here. For over a year, (while people said I was in denial) I was planning what I clothes to put her in (afterwards), wrote a eulogy, bought my black dress and shopped for funeral parlor...even together with a friend. I didn't do my homework well and now - all I get is criticism (since the wake). Those who sat with me during the planning stages (and said NOTHING) now told me this or that I should have noticed...If they noticed, why not speak up then? Now, I'm a constant weeping wreck knowing Mama would be so furious with my poor decisions.
People are great - from a distance. Family? Pffft! Friends? You have every right to ask yourself those questions, and I just want you to know, that while it may not ease your pain, there are others like you asking "where were they before?"