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i am wondering what the hell i have done wrong because since the death of Brad...peoplehave abandoned me.I think it is because Brad committed suicide and they dont want to hear the detaiils of his death.This is so wrong.I have never discussed any relationship problems that I had with Brad with noone.He did not want me and he did not want me to contact his family thats how sick he was getting.You see,,Brad was secretly an addict and all addictis have secrets.I am finding out that Brad had a secret life and it was shocking.All of this has hurt me.Yet....noone wants to talk.AWhy dont people talk anymore? Is is because of the Internet? Is is because of You Tube and the life nooone talks nomore! We have become a nation of hermits...Noone reaches out and I am afraid what will happen when all of us turn 70.I am 67 and a I am a very poor baby boomer.I dont have the money that my fellow baby boomers have and I never will.I have worked all of my life and I have been under care for bi polar disorder since 2009 and it is so hard to get a job and people do not understand.I like to meet new people and I like to talk about various subjects.But people do not understand and they misinterpret some of my actions.I do not have peolple over my house because I dont have any furniture.I do not have the money for goodies and I cannot afford coffee.I prefer to meet people at Starbucks and have conversations there.You see i am a collector and people think tht I am a hoarder also and this is not so.My l;ate father gave me several items before he died and I do not intend to sell them.I am getting a will and leaving it all to my great nephnews and i do not care what they do with them.Yet people tend to be critcial of this and frankly I think it is none of their business.You do not make comments about what is in a persons house.It is none of your business.If you do not like somebody..do me a favor.please keep your
opinions to yourself and remember I do not share the same as you.I was brought in ai different part of the country and I was raised different so please try to understand this.What i like are my tastes.It is none of your business.And you are never going to convert me to your way of thinking because I have been thnrough this before and I have had it with people with good intentions because it was their intentions and their concerns about Brad ...they made the situation worse.I could not tell anyone and If i want to talk about Brad....I will.Imet him when I was 48 years old.He was the love of my life and I miss him.If this offends you..do me a favor..do to the nearest lake and jump in.My grief for Brad has increased and because of budget cuts in Washington at this presnt time...I cannnot get no help or any medication...so remember this and try to be nice and smile if you can always remember that everyone as problems and it would be great is this was acknowledged.Do not tell me that Brad is in a better place.Can you tell me how in Gods name do you know? What is a better place? Can anyone answer me? I doubt it.ANd noone ever will.this all vader.
opinions to yourself and remember I do not share the same as you.I was brought in ai different part of the country and I was raised different so please try to understand this.What i like are my tastes.It is none of your business.And you are never going to convert me to your way of thinking because I have been thnrough this before and I have had it with people with good intentions because it was their intentions and their concerns about Brad ...they made the situation worse.I could not tell anyone and If i want to talk about Brad....I will.Imet him when I was 48 years old.He was the love of my life and I miss him.If this offends you..do me a favor..do to the nearest lake and jump in.My grief for Brad has increased and because of budget cuts in Washington at this presnt time...I cannnot get no help or any medication...so remember this and try to be nice and smile if you can always remember that everyone as problems and it would be great is this was acknowledged.Do not tell me that Brad is in a better place.Can you tell me how in Gods name do you know? What is a better place? Can anyone answer me? I doubt it.ANd noone ever will.this all vader.
When you're in a dark funk, beyond forlorn, and everything you say is negative, nobody can think of any words to say to respond to that.
I like how you talk about Brad WHEN HE WAS HERE. Please do more of that! That is a positive! That is life! That is what matters to you!
God bless you vader
1. Most people realize that we are hurting during this time and know that being given the time and space to grieve is important for the healing process. No one can bring us out of our depression it is something that we must do alone. We need to come to the conclusion that the death, while tragic, doesn't mean that the World stops spinning. The Sun will continue to rise and set. Life must go on.
2. Most people really don't know what to say and they have their own issues to deal with. Let's face it, if a friend has a scratch on their car that will be their priority. Other than listen to us share our pain there really isn't much that anyone can do for us.
3. Many will never have to deal with the issue of suicide. Therefore many have absolutely no idea on what to do and are too embarrassed to do anything other than disappear.
I am sorry for your loss. I too had a young friend commit suicide this year. She left behind a loving husband and two twin toddlers. We have all had to deal with the guilt that comes from hind sight. But dwelling upon it is a dangerous thing. Often the deceased is committed to killing themselves with no thought of how it affects those who remain behind. I speak of this while dealing the the Overdose of a young cousin just before Christmas. We are all grieving and trying to come to terms with such a senseless loss. In time we will heal, we will remember but we will be stronger.