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When I was a little girl in the 1950s and going to Catholic School.I had a great deal of wonderful Irish nuns who raised me.I wish they were here today.I miss the classes on English and Irish literature.Recently,I tried to read James Joyce and it was just so difficult for me....that I had to give the book away something that i never done.But here is a lesson and here is something that I believe....PEOPLE ARE PUNISHED TODAY FOR CRYING.CRYING IS AN EMOTION AND ALL EMOTIONS COME FROM GOD AND IT IS HEALTHY TO CRY.SO WHY DO PEOPLE GET UPSET WHEN PEOPLE CRY? can anyone tell me why? Crying releases a special something and that calms you.It also tells people you are human and it also tells people that you loved the person and you miss him.So why do people walk away? Did anyone see any of the memorial to Michael Jackson? People were crying.I didnt read or hear anything negative about this display of emotion,but when a ordinary person cries or gets upset...what do people do? THEY AVOID YOU.YOU ARE LIKE POISON...WELL,IT WILL BE EIGHT MONTHS SOON THAT I LOST MY BRAD AND I STILL CRY.I LET IT OUT EVERY TIME WHEN I GET UP AND FEED MY CATS.I LET THE TEARS FLOW AND SINCE I AM IN THIS HOUSE AND I AM ALL ALONE NOW...AND YOU KNOCK ON THE DOOR AND I ANSWER IT.....AND YOU SEE ME UPSET...PLEASE DO ME A FAVOR.....DONT ASK IF YOU CAN COME IN! YOU cant...I cant have any parties here nor can i have overnight visitors because i promised the land lord to keep this house clean and this is in the lease.This is my house and i will be here for 3 years...but he had trouble with the previous tenants.Sometimes I cry at the hearing of a certain song....I have got two favorite songs.....The first song that I cry over is Blue Christmas by Elvis Presley and the 2nd song is The Fool on The Hill by The Beatles sung by Paul Mccartney.and these songs Brad loved and today I heard them.And guess what? I cried.If you have a recent loss....cry.mourn.scream.let these emotions out.You have got grief and dont let these angry emotions engulf your life...and now guess what?I have forgiven Brad for all that has happened and in the meantime...I am cleaning the house,lookinf for work,taking care of the cats and writing .But dont let anyone tell you cant cry.I am sorry if i get off the subject...but when people tell you this over and over again for the past 8 months and they were not there when I found Brads lifeless body..I feel that I can go throu this grief and cry.
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I cry too. I just finished a bout of crying. I hate this I feel like I am being punished. People don't know what to say to you when you cry. Sometimes I also just want to be left alone. It has not even been a month since my husband died and people want you to be over it. Well I can't In the last 5 years Ilost both parents and my husband how much more?
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thank you for your reply.I thought that I was the only one who felt this way.Crying makes me feel so much better and I resent the way that we have become a feel good people.Havent people noticed that when you are feeling bad that the doctor gives you medicine? Is the doctor telling me not to cry? I want to be left alone also.It has been almost 8 months and the guilt that I feel cannot be felt by many.And what does get over it mean? Do people believe that I have to pretend that Brad did not exist? I think not.he did exist and when he wasnt doing drugs or drinking he was a super person who helped me a lot.I have lost a lot in the past 7 years also and how can I forget these people?
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