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some days I can be just fine and go about my business and all is well. and then some days it just hits me like a ton of bricks and i wonder how i am going to even get through the day. and then some days can start out fine and then you see someone or something or hear some song that reminds you of the one you lost and then you just start crying out of the blue. today was one of those bad days. it all started last night when I had a dream about my grandparents that I lost this past year. I dreamed that the whole family was at their lake place and that it was the fourth of july and we were lighting fireworks and having a good time. I woke up and started crying. I cried the whole morning and was not sure I would make it to work because I was so upset. I did manage to get to work but while I was there I heard a song that reminded me of when I used to dance with my grandfather when I was a child and the tears came back again. I tried everything I could to hold them back and had to distract myself so that I would not have a breakdown in the office. these past few days have been pretty bad for me and I have been crying alot. I go through these spells every now and then and i find that it is always good to wright on this board about it because i find that everyone on here is always kind and understanding as they can understand what I have been through.
You just described alot of what I'm going through. Even without hearing a song or anything - I experience that sudden breakdown into uncontrollable tears - sometimes sobbing beyond description. Thank you for telling it just the way it is. And that's why I come to these boards. It's the only place we can share with others who understand because we're all experiencing the same - instead of people telling us to put it in the past and get on with life. It's so much easier said than done. (And in the meantime we have to be afraid friends will abandon us if we don't stop crying. Imagine. It's fear of another loss - emotional support of friends who we hope will help carry us through this.)
Like MomasChild, I have had to be careful how much I unload on any one friend. They are all helpful at first but our society has gotten into this crazy idea that grieving should be over when the funeral ends or some few months. So we end up keeping it internalized which just prolongs the healing process. Vent here anytime you want. We all know what you are going through. God bless. Scott
God bless. Scott
So I understand how you feel as I was a basket of emotions this past week and since last Sept I have been trying to help my other sister (which is my only other sibling) get proper care as she is having kidney and liver failure and has almost died several times since late last year.
So my roller coaster ride continues and I know its not good for us. It takes a toll on a body.
It does get better (as far as handling emotions) but you never stop missing them or wanting to share stuff that you would have shared right away. That has been one of the most difficult things for me as we have had other granchildren and my sister that passed was the one I shared all that with. Even just the little things the kids do that she would love to hear about (just as I did with her little ones) I ache to be able to tell her things and know she is just there for me when I needed or wanted to talk to her. I have no one else that fills those shoes for me as we do have those special people in our lives that are not replaceable.
I am sure everyone here knows exactly what I am talking about.
This forum has been a true blessing to me as it was what I really needed. I feel like I know some of you even though we have never met.