Bereavement Support Group

Are you grieving the loss of a loved one? Whether you lost someone recently or it's been years, grief and its accompanying emotions can be complicated to cope with. Join our online support group to connect with a supportive group of people who really know how you feel. Help is right here.

3,877 Members
13,418 Posts
0 Online
Death & Dying
/ Bereavement Support Group

what do you say? by vader

vader
vader
i just the news that one of the girls whom I worked with grandson was killed in an head on collision crash.He was her only grandson and he was only 18 years old and just graduated from high school.He wanted to go into the Marines..He was a real nice boy.Can anyone tell me what to say to the family? It is important that I know.You see people today can be idiots and I dont want to make a spectulate of myself at the funeral parlor.He is going to be laid out for one day and then there will be the funeral.I already brought her a card....I am a bit hurt by this loss.What do I say and what do I do? What would you do if one of your coworkers experienced a tragedy? Are there any support groups that can be recommenede? Once again....thanks.Vader.
Januaryice
Januaryice
just say..."I'm so sorry for your loss and if and when you want/need to talk/vent/cry I'll be here for you". that's it.
Lisastp
Lisastp
Just being there to hug them and let them cry is the main thing you can do. There's nothing you can say except "I'm so sorry for your loss" just as in the previous reply. More important than what you can say is that you can listen to them. Let them talk about what they are feeling and thinking.

After a few days have gone by and the funeral is over, take over some groceries or a fruit basket and let them know you'll be there if they need anything, and then listen to what they say they may need. Everyone is different, but just by being there, and offering to help, you'll give them support and strength.
vader
vader
to all who replied...thanks you for the advice.It has been very hard on her and she looks awful.I did tell her how sorry I am about her loss and if there is anything I can do..I would do it.Once again,thanks.
Getingstronger
Getingstronger
Just be kind and allow her to talk about her loss when she wants to. Sometimes it is weeks after the funeral that a person needs help. After all the cards are done and the services are done and it is quiet and no people are around, that may be the time for you to come forward with a letter from the heart, or a lunch out, perhaps.

Whatever kindness and warmth you can bestow on someone who lost a child in their life will be welcome.