i have got a question and I have noticed this and it is being done more often.What do you do when friends disappear after a death and you are grieving? Who do you talk to? My late grandfather told me before he died in 1983 at the age of 97,that it is hard to make friends after 50.I thought that Granddad was joking,,but he was not.My last best friend hasnt spoken to me ever since I lost Frank.She never returns my calls and I figure that she is just a nut.I dont carry on and I dont talk about Frank like I used to,but this is the atittude that people have today not to talk about unpleasant subjects,but when something happens to them..boy they get on a band wagon! They are the ones who are on all of the talk shows and get all these billings!She is telling me that I am no good because I had a death in the family and as far as I am concerned,she and the others can go jump in a lake and stay there.It is not my problem because she cant accept that I am going thru this grief..it is hers and shes one of these happy go lucky..but is she? If she wants to be a phony like the women on some of these shows..she can be my guest.But do not try to do it in everyday life..it just doesnt work.I still cry about Frank everyday and I still miss him..but my late grandfather told me the truth...That some people nowadays are very greedy and they want attention and money and this is all they want and they will do anything to get it including spreading lies.Lets stop glorifying some of these rich people who havent worked a day in their lives.Lets teach our children the value of hard work and to work all of their lives.And lets teach them how to save money instead of buying them i pods and cell phones and trips to the mall that will not help them later in life.We must learn to be sensible right now.My nephew was born on my birthday.He is 17,well he called me from New York and he wants an allowance! I am a very proud great aunt and he is my favorite.I asked him how much allowance that he wants..he said 75.00 a week!When I asked him why he told me that all of his friends get 80.00 a week! I am on ssi and I cant help him out! And I know that my niece is havinf money problems.Would you give him 75.00 a week! I dont know what to do.But when I ask at the center..they look at me and my case mangager told me that a nephew should be working but he has a heavy load at school.Thanks to all.Vader.My cats are getting stinky again.Tuffy just came back from across the street after she did number two in this ladys garden.The house is up for sale.Kramer followed.It is all over the driveway! They havent done this before>So I must clean up.Cats are like people sometime they can be stinky.