Friends come and go and people treat you differently when someone dies. You move on, meet new people, make new friends. There's no way you could get "over" your grief but you can learn to get through it. Plus, there is no time limit for grief and we all grieve in different ways

It's good that you cry and you need a lot of time I think, before you start feeling better.

You could maybe tell that openly, that you want to go do something fun and that you don't want any sympathy. Just hang out.

It's been a while since Brad passed. Some friends will wait, but others won't. Sometimes you find that you have to replace the friends you once had because they're ust not there for you any more. And that's okay because your friends haven't been through what you have.

There are senior centers that are for activities (not for living) and how about finding one and going there for card games or for art classes and much more--to meet some new friends. They also have support groups there for all ages. Many, many hugs. Kisses to Kramer.

I am going to be really blunt and say it as it is. Brad was your loss, and you can't expect people to try to react to the same old story that they hear every time they see you - they will and do avoid you. When I read you were placeing your loss behind you and moving on - I was relieved, but no, here we are again, milking the cow dry. Newbies here will not understand that we who are also in mourning have heard the same old story ever week for over three years..... My name is Vader and I am 67 years old......Brad died in my arms etc etc etc. We are ALL in mourning here, but repeating the same old story ad infinitum will not create more sympathy. We do however wish you good luck with your singing and the toast mistress club etc.

Take up a new hobby...exercise.

It's what I do. I WORK. Work gets me through many a dogshit moment in life.

barbarame, please put Vader on IGNORE and that would be the best thing you could do. Others will support her.

My loss is still very fresh... 1 month. But I have found that my friends are one of two ways: either very clingy and supportive, or they avoid me like the plague because they just don't know how to react or what to say. My clingy supportive friends are starting to calm down and move away from it... but they don't know how. I have communicated to my friends that I totally appreciate everything they have done or haven't done, and that the sooner they get back to treating me the way they did before my dad passed, the sooner I can heal. People just don't know until you tell them how you feel. Open up the communication. Big hugs. I'm sorry you're going through that... grief is so multi-dimensional.

Your just going through alot of stuff and experiencing life. Sometimes this is just how it it is.

to all who replied...things are getting a bit better and I have been very busy.Noone comes over the house.That is done for my privacy as I dont have the monetary means as of now to supply snacks and coffee.I am going to Toastmasters and Tuesday will be my 2 nd speech and I have been rehearsing it and it is fun to be listened to and corrected.All I can say is this...and this is a fact...noone really recovers from a suicide.I am still devasted and all of the therapy in the world will never solve it.We have fantastic sources here in seattle.We have support groups and private organizations.If you are behind in your rent.there are churches here who will pay one months rent and if you are behind in the ulitity bills there is a wonderful organization you can go to if you qualifty.So many people today today are isolated and some of them do not talk well.Well,whose fault is that? Theres other things in life you can learn.Companionship is not a right.If you want it,I will say go for it..but do me a favor and stop trying to convert me as I have had enough of these over zealous people.Brad could have been helped and I will always love him and I will always grieve for them...and if you are in my house and I do mention Brad and you say you dont want to hear it...I will give your coat and you will be asked to leave.I am doing other things now but the love of my life is gone and the person whom helped me the most is gone.He will always be special and I will always carry his picture.If you dont like it....ts? Some people grieve all of their lives and I want everyone to know that this is the case and there is no time limit and if you dont like it.......go jump in a lake...You were not there and if you were not there..who are you to talk? And thats my reply to sadie.Vader

Hi Vader: Keep posting and don't worry. I know someone who lost a friend of theirs to suicide and it was very hard on her at the time and for years afterwards.

Please continue posting and I'll respond because I understand from knowing that person and I just met another person within the past two months who lost her son to suicide.

No one has walked in your shoes to truly understand your pain so they don't know. This board is for you too. Kisses to Kramer.