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Back in November my Great Aunt died, she lived just under 300 miles away and I relied on my parents to keep me informed on how she was. I knew she had been going downhill. She took a turn for the worst and finally accepted going to hospital, but did my parents phone me, nope, they waited until late the next day when she had died to tell me. I made it clear then that I wasn't happy and that i would have liked to have known she had gone into hospital as i would have come down.
Today I get a phone call from my parents, to say that on Tuesday (2 whole days ago) my Gran fell over at home (tripped over the hoover lead), bashed her head on a table, needed 5 stitches in his forehead and broke her upper left arm. It was serious enough that she was admitted to hospital and only released this afternoon. She isn't good, she is very confused and to be honest shouldn't be at home. She and my granddad are 93 and still living in their own home, but grandad has a habit of disappearing upto the shed to have a smoke on the old pipe, or to walk into town !!! Dad was going to have to stay up there tonight but Social Services have come up trumps and put a carer into their bungalow for the niight to assess how she is at night and whether she will require a permanent carer. Gran gets up during the night to wander around and in her confused state at present Dad reckons would even let herself out of the bungalow!. Reading between the lines of what my dad said I don't think it will be long, that this fall is going to be the end of her. So now i'm just waiting for the dreaded phone call.
I so wish that she lived nearer to me so that I could go and see her, but it's a 3 hour drive and the earliest i can go is 0730 monday morning and would have to be back up that evening as got to get up and leave for work at 0600 the next morning. No doubt I won't get the next phone call until it's too late and she has passed on. Dad's excuse for not ringing me on Tuesday was he knew i would be at work. Well I do have a mobile at work, and there is always the answerphone and Jane at home to leave a message with.
Today I get a phone call from my parents, to say that on Tuesday (2 whole days ago) my Gran fell over at home (tripped over the hoover lead), bashed her head on a table, needed 5 stitches in his forehead and broke her upper left arm. It was serious enough that she was admitted to hospital and only released this afternoon. She isn't good, she is very confused and to be honest shouldn't be at home. She and my granddad are 93 and still living in their own home, but grandad has a habit of disappearing upto the shed to have a smoke on the old pipe, or to walk into town !!! Dad was going to have to stay up there tonight but Social Services have come up trumps and put a carer into their bungalow for the niight to assess how she is at night and whether she will require a permanent carer. Gran gets up during the night to wander around and in her confused state at present Dad reckons would even let herself out of the bungalow!. Reading between the lines of what my dad said I don't think it will be long, that this fall is going to be the end of her. So now i'm just waiting for the dreaded phone call.
I so wish that she lived nearer to me so that I could go and see her, but it's a 3 hour drive and the earliest i can go is 0730 monday morning and would have to be back up that evening as got to get up and leave for work at 0600 the next morning. No doubt I won't get the next phone call until it's too late and she has passed on. Dad's excuse for not ringing me on Tuesday was he knew i would be at work. Well I do have a mobile at work, and there is always the answerphone and Jane at home to leave a message with.
If your folks don't keep in touch with you enough, maybe you will have to plan to call them more often. If that's possible for you. Huggs, Rainbow