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update on vader by vader 10/21/2011

vader
vader
It has been two weeks since I got messages.But I am informing all of you that my niece Sandra died on October4th,2011.She was 48.She had a undisanosed brain tumor.She was found in the driveway of her home.She was my 2nd oldest niece and i am asking everyone whom I have offended as in the 9th steps of AA for forgiveness.And because I missed a phone payment I was without phone service.My brother is taking this very hard.She died in Arkansas and she loved it down there.So everyone I am in a period of mourning and looking for a part time job.I do need it and it is so hard.And thanks for all you have done for me.Tomorrow it will be 29 months that I lost my Brad so I am suffering twice.Thanks to all vader.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I an so sorry for your loss life can be so hard sometimes can't it?, be strong and I hope a job comes your way soon, sending love and hugs to you xxxxxxx
reallove
reallove
I don't know you but it seems that both you and your brother need a friend, I would like to be that.
I know pain quite well myself and I also know how it is to have to deal with it alone, I have done that for nearly eighteen years.
But I have God to Thank, it has made me stronger,all around a better person,and I sometimes think maybe just a little wiser.
But there are those times when I have to wonder about the WISER !!!!!
But if there is anything I can do for either of you, please don't hesitate to let me know.
By the way Arkansas is a beautiful state, I have lived there.
Put me on your friends list if you would like to.
Lynn Darnell
deleted_user
deleted_user
Asking forgiveness is a wonderful thing but you have to forgive yourself, too. Remember, God loves you so much that you can't even imagine it, whether or not you believe it. You've suffered two major losses and you need not do this alone. If you can, find a grief counselor or go to the county mental health agency and ask for an appointment (they have sliding scale fees and work in teams with psychiatrists in case you need some medication). Don't carry this alone. Brain cancer is quite a difficult and terrible experience. Although taken in the prime of her life by this insidious disease, she didn't suffer the horror of diagnosis and the worse horror of surgery and treatment. Death is not the end, it's merely the physical body that "dies", the spirit goes on (I know this from personal experience, I'm not delusional). She was spared the horrors of those things. God bless you, don't give up, get some help.