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OLDBIKER 07/02/2010

On July 6th, 2005, my 37 year old son was killed in a car wreck, leaving 3 children behind. His mother is laying in ICU now, dying if cancer. Although we divorced years ago and this is the 5th anniversary of his death, this is very hard for me. It's like a double whammy this year.

Every year, near his death date, I kind of get down and sad and it lasts for a while. Something like this, is hard to deal with by itself and now his mom, my ex, is dying. She has cancer in her ovaries, bones, spine and her lung. She will be 63 on July 26th, if she lasts that long. It's all very sad for me.

deleted_user 07/02/2010

Im sorry that you are going through this... My thoughts are with you at this sad time...

Pam

Jhelum 07/02/2010

I'm so sorry, parents are not supposed to see their children go. My thoughts are with you. Take care.

Mag333 07/02/2010

Hugs to you. I wish you peace.

deleted_user 07/02/2010

hi OLDBIKER,
My heart goes out to you because of the death of your son and also because your ex's terminal illness and imminent death from it is still affecting you in spite of your divorce from her. I'll definitely be in prayer for you, because I know that dealing with two losses at one time is in many ways incredibly devastating--even if one of them is anticipated. God bless you and the rest of your family forever!
aloha,
JLG

deleted_user 07/02/2010

I'm am sorry to hear about your son, and your ex. I do understand the grief that you are going through involving your son. My first born daughter died at birth. Her 8th anniverary is July 11. I still feel the same grief this year, as I did the year she died. I will keep you in my prayers during this hard time. Julie

deleted_user 07/03/2010

My heart goes out to you. I can relate to the loss of your son, my daughter went to heaven just before her 8th birthday. It has been 26 years and I carry the pain and sadness in my heart every day. You don't 'get over' your chiId dying. I am sorry you are going through this and understand why you hurt over your ex-wife, his mother. I pray He will hide you in the shadow of His wing; we have no other place to go except to Him. God Bless.

eclectic 07/03/2010

During times such as these, our faith and resolve is often tested. Know that your sadness is a genuine and precious part of the very human expression of loss. The irony of love is that its loss is what often brings us to our knees in grief , humility, and contemplation. Use the experiences you're going through to realize the importance of reaching out to those who can receive and reciprocate your love.

During this time of reflection and grief, it's important you take care of you. Solicit the support of friends and family; and if you are a man of faith, talk to your clergy. If you find the pain unbearable, consider talking to a professional (pastoral counselor, clinical counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist). These people are trained to assist you in crisis.

Finally, take solace in the fact that the heart does go on. Though bruised and battered it may be, eventually it heals and compels us to move forward.

deleted_user 07/03/2010

hello OLDBIKER,
It's me, JLG. I just thought I'd stop by to reassure you that I'm in continual prayer for you and care about how you are faring at this time.

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