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Kharma 02/12/2018

A few months have passed now since I lost my grandmother and a really good friend. I've been doing ok with regards to my grandmother, she was 97 and had a good life so it wasn't as hard as I thought it would be. My first post only focused on my friend because her death hit me like a ton of bricks. She left so may unanswered questions and I finally found ways to cope with the lost, but some of my other friends are still stuck. I'm not on social media, so I avoid all the gossip and the message from people who just realized she's no longer with us. However, I can't avoid the random text, with the throwback pics. I'm not trying to forget her but seeing her pictures takes me to a place I would rather not visit. Should I ask my friends not to include me in the group messages?

ThePepperMan 02/12/2018

We all deal with loss differently; if seeing pictures of her is hard on you then it may be best to avoid them. But do remember, the more you request to be left off group texts and other social media, the more you will distance yourself from your friends.

It is a balancing act, and you are the one to set the balance. Do you have a close friend who may be able to act as a filter for you? Perhaps they can paraphrase things for you as you adjust to the loss?

Gentle hugs

Kharma 02/13/2018

I see what you're saying, however I feel like the more I revisit the past, the healing process for me is strained. I'm trying not to alienate my friends but they way of dealing with the loss is very different from my own. They constantly visit her social media page and I get that they don't want to accept that she's gone. I just don't know how to move forward with them.

ThePepperMan 02/15/2018

Perhaps you can start reaching out for new friends? Not to replace your existing ones, but some who were not as connected to your grandmother. This new set of friends will naturally NOT focus much on your grandmother and they can serve as an emotional safe haven for you!

Continuing hugs

Kharma 02/21/2018

Thank you both, it took me a few days to reply because my dad had a heart attack last week and I'm preparing to travel home on Friday. I will take all your suggestions, process them and try to implement as much as I can.

ThePepperMan 02/21/2018

I am so sorry that things are adding up. Let us know how your dad is doing

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