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alanav21 02/27/2016

My mom and I picked up my dad's ashes today. I thought I'd be ok if my mom was able to hold it together. The woman at the funeral home was in the middle of talking to another family, so we had to wait for a while. Once she was done, she went to get the remains. As soon as I saw the wood box, the tears started flowing. I can't believe my dad is in a box and not in the house, being awesome and fun and all he used to be.

My mom has a shelf of a bookcase in the living room that now has my dad, my brother, and three pets in wooden boxes. It tears me up. I miss them so much.

treedreamer1970 02/27/2016

Alana, that truly is a rough day and I'm sure some emotions came back, more raw than ever. It will probably be difficult for you both for years to look upon that shelf. After time though, when the sharp edges finally start to wear down, you'll also be able to share stories of remembrance- your memories. Let every part of your grief now be as it is and it's ok to let the tears just flow. Above all, remember to be kind to yourself.

ThePepperMan 02/27/2016

I don't like going to pick up ashes from the funeral home. But I've done it twice, hopefully there are not too many more such trips in my future.

Continuing hugs

hollowheart 02/29/2016

Alana, that was a very rough day, but you got through it. Better than you thought you did. We have to be glad for those little accomplishments. I'm so sorry for your losses. I didn't pick up my sisters ashes, and I can't stand the thought that she is not here, as you said about your dad, at home being fun and waiting on me.

I have not picked out urn yet, so my dad still has the ashes. A lot of this is on me so and I can't deal. I hope your upcoming days start to get better.

alanav21 03/01/2016

Thank you all for your kind words. Every single day is a struggle, and we're nearing the 1 month mark. I can't believe it's been a month.

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